Confessions on Sidechat | I feel bad but, this guy is trying to hang out with me and I would but, he is trying to hang out for the first time at my place like no. I will hang out and get to know you somewhere public. I don’t think that’s asking too much

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Confessions 5w

I feel bad but, this guy is trying to hang out with me and I would but, he is trying to hang out for the first time at my place like no. I will hang out and get to know you somewhere public. I don’t think that’s asking too much

Anonymous 5w

That’s not asking too much at all, first dates should always be in a neutral public location, there’s too many creeps and weirdos in the world for a dude to expect to be invited in someone’s home as a stranger or expect a stranger to be down to go to their house before ever meeting them. And I say that as a dude.

Anonymous 5w

Good to have boundaries

Anonymous 5w

Ya that’s a rush hang, slow his role

Anonymous 5w

Is he implying it is? Cause there’s nothing unreasonable about that, especially if you still want to see him. If he’s fixated in one of your places unless there’s a good reason that’s an orange flag tbh.

Anonymous

#1 5w

Okay that’s what I thought but, some people think that’s asking too much which is crazy.

Anonymous

#2 5w

No he just asked if we could hang at mine after saying like let’s go out to eat. I’m like I’m not sure if I’m even that attracted to you (didn’t tell him that) but, do not feel comfortable with him coming over to mine the first time we meet or going to his

Anonymous

OP 5w

Like he changed the plan to just wanting to come hang at mine

Anonymous

OP 5w

Like, to me a first date location is something like a coffee shop, a reasonably priced restaurant, etc. like since it’s the first date, I wouldn’t wanna go anywhere that’s gonna put a serious dent in my wallet, but it’s gotta be somewhere public where you can sit and talk and get to know each other. And if the person wants to go back to one of our places after the 2nd date, that’s cool, but there’s zero expectation on the first date.

Anonymous

OP 5w

Nah that’s definitely an orange flag. A lot of times guys will do that to get sex with no effort. Stick to going out to eat and see what he does. No need to feel bad.

Anonymous

#2 5w

Yeah I told him that I don’t have a tv in my room and that my roommates are using the one in the living room so, idk what we would do.

Anonymous

#1 5w

Yeah that’s what I’m used to more so

Anonymous

OP 5w

You don’t even need to say that tbh. It could just be “we agreed to go out to eat. Why the sudden change? I want to stick with our original plan.”

Anonymous

OP 5w

Like, if I’ve been on two dates out in public with someone, and for the third date I say “you can come to my place and I’ll cook us dinner and we can watch a movie” then I’d probably think it was a bit silly if they were opposed to it, since at that point we know each other well enough for them to know my intentions are good. But for the first date? Zero expectation of them being in my home or me being in theirs.

Anonymous

#2 5w

Yeah you’re right. He isn’t responding anyways. Whatever though if he doesn’t respect my boundaries and feelings than bye bye

Anonymous

OP 5w

Exactly cause if he switched it up like that it probably means he didn’t want to get to know you to begin with. He was testing you to see if he could do the bare minimum for sex and that’s a great test to fail!

Anonymous

#2 5w

Also he asked for my snap didn’t even give me his number red flag honestly

Anonymous

#1 5w

Yeah like my home is my safe place not going to bring a stranger there for my safety and my roommates safety

Anonymous

OP 5w

It’s smoldering 😭

Anonymous

#2 5w

Yeah fr