Anonymous #1 4w

Why are you asking

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Anonymous #1 4w

This seems like a childish way to handle a relationship and I’d be hard pressed to believe you’re an actual adult

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Anonymous #1 4w

Their eyes should only be on me. If my partner says they want a threesome or to open it up it means they have eyes on someone or they're bored of me. Let's just end it so they can enjoy their freedom and we don’t waste our time

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Anonymous OP 4w

If someone says what their wants are of course you are allowed to say no and end it. But not allowing a conversation or being open minded enough to hear someone out, and then state your wants, and see where you guys align or compromise, sounds childish to me

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Anonymous #1 4w

I’m not open minded at the conversation of a threesome or opening it up. I’d listen to them talk about their idea of opening it up and being in a threesome, it’s just my answer would be that I no longer want to be in a relationship with them.

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Anonymous #1 4w

Are you? You’re the one that sounds 19 lmao

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Anonymous #1 4w

I sound 19 because I think you should talk things out with your partner instead of just breaking up because of one difference? Have you ever been in a real relationship?

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Anonymous #1 4w

You sound 19 bc you can’t comprehend that not everyone is okay with things like that. Adults are allowed to have boundaries and break up when their boundaries are crossed. A discussion doesn’t always magically fix a boundary being crossed. If you’re into threesomes or being in an open relationship then that’s something you should communicate BEFORE dating someone.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Not disagreeing with your post, but that’s not necessarily true. My partner and I opened up our relationship because we both agreed it would be even more fun that it already was. We’re not bored of each other or have eyes for someone else, if anything, it’s just made for an even deeper bond and trust. It’s not for everyone but it shouldn’t be demonized like that

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Anonymous #4 4w

How is saying something you want crossing a boundary ? You’re acting like they cheated. This what I mean by it’s childish. Thinking your partner magically shouldn’t be attracted to anyone else because yall are dating is childish. Throwing away a relationship because you just don’t want a 3some is childish

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Anonymous #4 4w

Person A : hey I want this Person B : oh! I don’t want or like that A: okay that’s fine I still love you and don’t need that. B : okay :) I love you too That’s called talking things out, r u good gang?

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Anonymous #4 4w

Bitch I am and I fully agree with op bc ya a relationship is ONLY between 2

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Anonymous #5 4w

I mean that’s you two. People work in different ways and if it work for you two then great. Me, personally, I don’t want to have threesome or open it once I’m in a relationship

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Anonymous OP 4w

Right, I’m just saying your characterization of it only being for those two reasons is not necessarily correct. Like I said, I don’t disagree with your post, and it’s not for everyone, but again, it shouldn’t be demonized for the people who do prefer it that way.

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Anonymous #5 4w

No one is “demonizing” it? OP just said it’s not for them and they’d leave a relationship and that’s OKAY.

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Anonymous #7 4w

Lmfaoooooo iight

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Anonymous #1 4w

You’re just straight up putting words in my mouth bro lmao. No point in continuing a conversation with you when you’re not even understanding what I’m saying

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Anonymous #4 4w

What is words did I put in your mouth? Lmaooo no wonder u agree with op, u suck at communicating too. Best of luck!

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Anonymous #1 4w

“Acting like they’re cheating” “thinking your partner magically shouldn’t be attracted to other people” where in my comments did I say either of those things? That’s you putting things in my mouth.

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Anonymous #4 4w

Saying the *only* reasons anyone would ever want a threesome or openness in a relationship are because they “have eyes for someone else” or “they’re bored” is objectively demonizing it

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Anonymous #13 4w

The whole problem with OP’s statement is that they’re dropping their partner immediately, no questions asked, no communication. Just because someone brings up a threesome or opening the relationship doesn’t immediately mean they have eyes for someone else

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Anonymous #11 4w

That’s gross tbh

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Anonymous #15 4w

Can you elaborate?

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Anonymous #11 4w

It LITERALLY does mean that they have eyes for someone else. Pls be serious lmao. I saw your other comment btw. Your partner had other eyes for the boyfriend/ex he wanted and you had other eyes for the boyfriend you guys have. Like what’s not clicking?😂

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Anonymous #16 4w

My partner did already have a crush when he told me abt it yes, however I didn’t have a crush on my friend, I just noticed he was flirting and realized I didn’t dislike it and immediately told my partner before feelings could develop, and once I had the go ahead, I went ahead and pursued. Some people don’t need to find a third person before they realize they would like to be loving more and be loved by more than one person.

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Anonymous #16 4w

And if it’s just a threesome the partner wants then that doesn’t even always mean romantic feelings a lot of times, some people bring up threesomes and them they and their partner go out hunting for a third together for just a night

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Anonymous #11 4w

Having eyes for someone else includes physical attraction and wanting to bang them. Looking for a 3sum partner includes that. You just said a whole lot of nothing. Enjoying romantic attention from someone who’s NOT your partner also falls under having eyes for someone else.

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Anonymous #16 4w

I said specifically that asking for a 3some or an open relationship doesn’t necessarily mean that they’ve *already* had eyes for someone else, obviously if you’re looking then yeah, you’re going to find someone to look at, but just asking doesn’t mean they’ve already looked

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