Confessions on Sidechat | Honestly I’ve never seen a man be the leader of a household. The woman is always in charge, she always plans everything, she gets everyone everything they need. I have never been in a friend or family members house where the man was actually in charge.

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Confessions 3w

Honestly I’ve never seen a man be the leader of a household. The woman is always in charge, she always plans everything, she gets everyone everything they need. I have never been in a friend or family members house where the man was actually in charge.

Anonymous 3w

I mean personally I think neither partner should really be “in charge.” Ideally in a relationship both people give equal effort and support. If we’re talking about in the bedroom that’s a different thing. But in terms of taking care of the house/life/whatever, I’d want it to be equal.

Anonymous 3w

Yeah. There’s a big difference between saying you call the shots and actually following through on it. Leave any “head of the household” man in charge of things for one day and I promise he’s texting his wife at least 5 different times asking about basic things like laundry, groceries, kids’ schedules, etc.

Anonymous 3w

Today we won a cheerleading competition and we gotta pay bid to go to the finale, but we’re going to Ocean City

Anonymous 3w

That’s cause us men are simpletons and women like things done a particular way. Example: For us doing the laundry is simply load the machine with detergent, empty it, fold and hang, etc. For women like specific detergent, softener, sanitizer, hanging specific things to dry while others go in the dryer, everything has a spot that’s usually random to us guys. It’s just genuinely easier to let the women call the shots and lead the show when it comes to home so they’re happy.

Anonymous

#1 3w

Yea I agree with that

Anonymous

#2 3w

Not me though! All I need to do is send my man a pic of whatever specific thing I need from the store, even makeup, and he finds it without any question or complaint. I come home to a clean apartment without asking when he has days off. I can’t imagine worrying about how my household is being run while I’m trying to have a relaxing day or something.

Anonymous

#4 3w

No your not simpleton. Yes different people have different preferences on how to do things but that has nothing to do with your gender. Some men like certain detergents or have ways of folding laundry. If one person has preferences, they can explain them, and the other can learn them. Men can’t say they’re “leaders” and not actually do anything to be a leader. Your missing the entire point

Anonymous

OP 3w

It’s in general. You don’t need to take it so literal. I’m not missing the point. Being someone who’s been in a longer relationship I can tell you it doesn’t matter if I want to learn it or not, she likes to do it her way and she wants to do it.

Anonymous

#4 3w

It’s not in general tho. Everyone is different What works in your relationship is good for you but you did completely miss the point of the post. Women are often seen as the person who has to take care of everything and I’ve never seen a man actually be a leader in their household.

Anonymous

OP 3w

Because you’re missing the point, most women don’t want the men messing something up and find it easier doing it themselves, so why argue with our partners to do those things when they think you won’t do it right and mess it up. It’s a pointless argument to get into. Happy wife- happy life.

Anonymous

#4 3w

did u read what I said or are you just so stuck on this fake idea you created in your head that you refuse to understand?

Anonymous

OP 3w

Let’s just agree to disagree. We clearly don’t see each other’s points nor will we be swayed so no need to continue arguing about it. Hope you have a lovely day.

Anonymous

#4 3w

bro you’re trying to generalize half the population. I’m not arguing with you I’m telling you that’s sexist

Anonymous

OP 3w

Yeah this just sounds like his partner has tried to teach him how to do things but he won’t learn, so she’s exhausted and over trying. I have been there far too many times with certain people. It ends up being easier under those circumstances to just do it all yourself, but my god is it easier to have someone just learn to do simple things correctly and pull their weight.

Anonymous

OP 3w

Lol if you want to look at it as sexist that’s on you. There’s many things that I do in the household that she does not- dishes, cook, and not to mention the things outside the house like taking care of the cars, setting up appointments, etc. Which is how most partnerships work- they pick and choose what is best to take care of in their relationship. Instead of assuming it’s sexist maybe go out and get in a relationship once in your life and you’d see that instead of talking nonsense.

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Anonymous

#4 3w

I didn't say her doing laundry is sexist I said you generalizing women as extra is sexist