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Confessions 4w
People don't understand how hard it is to have been single your entire life, but always wanted a partner. At a certain point you just start believing you aren't included in that part of the human experience
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Anonymous 4w

When you hyper-focus on relationships, and put the idea of a partner on a pedestal, it often manifests into 'desperation'. Ts oozes out of your pores. It's SUPER easy to pick up on and wards off potential partners. Decanter the idea of romance and relationships. Put ts on the back burner, fixate on self-improvement, career, education, hobbies, fitness, etc. THAT'S when you'll find someone.

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Anonymous 4w

THIS!! I hope I meet a girl one day who can relate to me, I’m sure we’d have a lot talk about

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Anonymous 4w

It never began

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

FUCK ME MAN 😭 its all i fucking think about it's so frustrating because I know I'm just ruining my expectations. I 100% do need to work on myself but I just don't know where to start.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

I'm 25 and I've been in 2 relationships, besides that Ive never dated around, never done hookups, none of that. Being single is so dope bro. Relationships/romance really aren't entirely necessary. If you happen to meet a VERY striking person that you jive with on a molecular level, then sure! But besides that, it's really not worth seeking out romance.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Your own issues/unresolved shit is also placed under a SPOTLIGHT in relationships. Best to sort yourself out first, so that you can be a good, healthy partner in a good, healthy relationship. Don't ever date someone you don't REALLY connect with. And hm if you really don't know where to start, try therapy? Even if it's just a few sessions then you stop, just to get the gears turning

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Yeah I guess I just have to figure out everything about myself before trying to figure out another person too. I have been going to therapy for years but there isnt really a solution I have found even with the amount of hard work I've done. This is good advice, i just wish it was easy to just let it go

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