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My boyfriend wants to add me to his bank account. I don’t make any money, but he said he wants me to have access in case of emergency. I’ve never heard of bf/gfs doing that. Is it normal?
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Anonymous 2w

Ehhh I wouldn’t. I’m married and we don’t even do that. It just seems like a slippery slope, especially with only dating

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Anonymous 2w

Seems suspicious

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Anonymous 2w

You found a good guy who wants to provide for you. Many people will see it as wrong, but it’s not. He’s not asking for your money, just sharing his. Go for it

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Anonymous 2w

Yeah it means he like likes you

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Anonymous 2w

Joint owner or authorized user?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

He used the word joint

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Then you own the money in the account too if it's a joint account

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Why is it a slippery slope?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Is that good?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

So it’s a good/okay thing?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I have a couple of friends who did this and they dated for 7 years, broke up, and the guy continued to use the bank account because of all the paperwork you need to mutually complete to cut off access. I think a better idea would be something like a Venmo card where he can put money into the account for you to have access to, rather than direct access to the bank account.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Venmo is not a bank they are not FDIC insured

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Good for you, but if he break up with you, then he might be legally required to give you some money in that account by court order

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Yeah, I’m not sure what the work around is in that case. But I still don’t think it’s the best idea to have a joint account

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I don’t see any issues with that

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

Why?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

It's something he could hold over you in the future if arguments come up

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

I guess I could see how that’d happen but we never fight

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Thank you! I still haven’t made up my mind, but I appreciate you seeing it as a good thing

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