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Confessions 1d
It’s so hard dating and being a victim of DV. Like yes I like you but I am so scared and ashamed to tell you what happened to me that I don’t even know how to bring it up
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Anonymous 1d

What is DV

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Anonymous 1d

Bro I tried to keep it a secret in my last relationship, but I'd randomly have these episodes where I'd detach from the present reality and be like 'Please don't hurt me' and get super scared of my super gentle ex, flinching and curling up into defensive positions. It was a lot worse when I'd drink w him. The PTSD episodes exposed me so fast. My ex did NOT like dat. Ofc. It's part of the reason we broke up ☹️

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Anonymous 23h

Okay this! And ngl what do you do when you want to pursue dating but still deal with the trauma bond? I feel like I can’t actually date til that’s over

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Domestic violence

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Ah, I’m sorry

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I explained it to him and everything but he'd get SO upset like 'Dude everyone probably thinks I beat you now.' 'I'd never hurt you, you're making me feel like such a POS' but I genuinely couldn't control it He thought I was doing it on purpose for attention/to get out of arguments ☹️

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

That’s what happened in my last relationship, except he made me break up with him because he cheated on me. I am actually so scared

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I am so sorry he sounds like a POS for making you feel bad about it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23h

Wow I'm sorry you had to go through that :( what a freaking weirdo. It's rough out here. We just have to be very selective and patient. There are definitely men out there who'd understand and cherish us. They're just harder to find.

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