Anonymous #1 6d

The fact you think that’s what’s meant by desirable tells me you don’t talk to actual women

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Anonymous #1 6d

hahahaha omg this really how they sound you did such a good impersonation 🤣

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Anonymous #2 6d

So define desirable? I’d love to hear it from u. As if to say desirability isn’t both internal and external self work that’s bought by the efforts and luxury of time or money in the process of self actualization ? But define desirability to me let’s all hear it here I’m waiting.

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Anonymous #1 6d

Internal and external self work isn’t a luxury. It’s being a basic adult capable of self reflection. You don’t need an excess of money or free time to do that. What each woman finds desirable is gonna vary cause we’re not a monolith but you complaining that basic maturity isn’t possible unless you’re rich and have a ton of free time sure as hell isn’t it for most of us.

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Anonymous #1 6d

by desirable they just mean: nice to me, could be seen as reasonably attractive, good hygiene, interesting or funny in some way

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Anonymous #2 6d

Haha clearly you have no knowledge on how every single little thing has a cascading effects. Or do I say you’re probably still too young or too immature to have matured enough to know that the luxury of time and money by the way that society is designed especially in America is a direct precussor to evolving as an individual.

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Anonymous #4 6d

In the hierarchy of human needs by science you would not be prioritizing your survival over the affordabilities of basic daily living and survival over efforts to be a little more attractive, good hygiene as basic as it sounds it’s always cheap or attainable at high stress or environmental chaos, interesting or funny is a character development constituted by environment which requires the luxury of time and money as well to develop.

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Anonymous #4 6d

Basically it: Does he treat me/others well? Is he decently looking (aka not hideous)? Does he shower routinely and dress decently? Can I have a good conversation and do hobbies with him? Do I feel safe/heard around him? Bonus points for is he willing to help me with mundane things? How these specific things show up will vary by woman but that’s the basics of a “desirable” man and none of it requires the “luxury” of money or excessive free time.

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Anonymous #1 6d

You’re acting like you have to be some fully self actualized human living a life of leisure to do basic self work and you don’t? Sounds like you just want to make excuses for why you aren’t bothering to be self reflective or emotionally mature tbh

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Anonymous #1 6d

this you?: ☝️🤓

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Anonymous #2 6d

Nah I’ve self actualized and I’m guaranteed at a 100% place of comfort, loved by many, got a gf and everything in the broad spectrum of thing u could think of but I realize and recognize the disadvantages of those who may never get to where I’m at and I see the impediments there because I have actual conversations with people both male and females and I speak on what I know not what I want it to be. I’m self sufficient!

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Anonymous #1 6d

Yes thinking other people are too poor/busy to treat someone else well, be self reflective, shower, wear decent clothes, and make others feel safe to the point women only want the top 1% of men is definitely something a well-loved self actualized person would say.

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Anonymous #1 6d

Hard to argue these things with people cause some of u may never have foresights or think in 3rd places to understand people and their situations sometimes enough to give them grace. But hey selfish world we live in so everyone is entitled to what they desire but don’t be mad when it comes back around and your disfavor in similar or opposite situations because you’d seek and long to know why u but you’d never have this understanding that I’ve just tried to teach u here.

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Anonymous #2 6d

Haha ok ma’am! This is like you judging a screenplay writer by the movie they’ve wrote based off of a real world event of another persons story 😂

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Anonymous #1 6d

what?

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Anonymous #1 6d

Yes women want a man who treats them well, practices basic hygiene, makes them feel safe, and who they can share hobbies/interesting conversations with are asking for too much because men are too poor/busy to work on those basic social skills to you. Only the top 1% of men can do these things to you. Excellent, very realistic screen play.

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Anonymous #5 6d

The point is not the money in itself, the point is that the money is what breeds everything else as that’s what society has wrapped and built a lot of things around to constitute to a better life. There’s a reason why your local McDonald’s worker smiles less and smells less nicer than your local tech bro. If u grew up in a lower economical environment and grew up an angry child well into adulthood and the suffering continues without a slow down in life to force u to realize-

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Anonymous #1 6d

i’m gonna touch you bruh

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Anonymous #1 6d

Where all your anger comes from, how do u think you could possibly be a better person if you’ve never healed from all your compiled cascading traumas over the years that becomes a part of your self identity? so u see where the luxury of time and money comes in because the child who grew up in a better household may know and feel better than the child who didn’t. Y’all lack immerse understandings and it shows.

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Anonymous #1 6d

I’ve worked as a cashier AND as a social worker. Plenty of my minimum wage coworkers and even homeless clients managed to be in healthy, supportive relationships. But yes men who aren’t rich or dealing either the trauma of poverty can’t possibly do any of the very basic things #5 listed. How dare you expect that of a man??

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Anonymous #1 6d

“Babe I work at McDonald’s so my brain doesn’t have the capacity to not want to get in your pants 24/7 or want a life with you—unlike that tech bro who’s totally a nice and well rounded person and has never been a fuck boy in his life because he’s rich.” Makes complete sense 😂

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Anonymous #2 6d

I’m done arguing with little kids 😂 yall picking and choosing what y’all wanna hear for the sake of arguing instead of reading to understand a perspective outside of yours. Yall so sheltered you’d be massively shocked the day life really hits yall

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Anonymous #2 6d

why would you want your future wife and family to be impoverished because all you want to offer is being just as nice as the next guy

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Anonymous #1 6d

I’m not sheltered. I literally did social work and have friends across the economic spectrum. If you’d focused on how socioeconomic instability strains relationships I’d agree. But you’re essentially saying guys who aren’t rich can’t be interesting/funny, emotionally available, not want to get into someone’s pants all the time, or a loyal partner per #3’s list and that women only want the top 1% of men. If that’s your perspective then YOU’RE the sheltered little kid not worth arguing with.

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Anonymous #5 6d

So I see everyone took my comment the wrong way, sorry for expressing my opinion 😔

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Anonymous #1 6d

so basically you’re too poor to afford to be interesting???? plenty of people living in abject poverty are interesting or funny in my experience more so than the average population

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Anonymous #4 6d

Yeah this guy clearly hasn’t been around many poor people cause those are legit some of the funniest most resourceful, reflective, and interesting people you’ll meet. That’s how you manage when you don’t have anything cushy or materialistic to rely on.

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