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Ik cuddling with a guy who’s not my bf isn’t a good thing, but I don’t feel like it’s straight up bad either. Especially since it’s NOT sexual at all and we do it to cope with a shared traumatic experience
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Anonymous 1w

go suck this dude’s dick and spit in your man’s face while you’re at it omfg

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Anonymous 1w

Hot take: I see both sides. Yall cuddle cuz of trauma. Okay. Issue: what if someone catches feelings and wants more? There are also other ways to cope with the experience.

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Anonymous 1w

you’d probably get more respect admitting you cheated than going through this mental gymnastics

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Anonymous 1w

Is this something your bf knows you do ?

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Anonymous 1w

you should be able to do that with your partner. If you can’t, you should not be in a relationship. either tell him or break up with him lmfao

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Anonymous 1w

Excuses only satisfy the ones who make them

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Anonymous 1w

no offense but i hope your boyfriend is cheating on you with your best friend. ATP you deserve it

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Anonymous 1w

and your partner might consider that cheating. that’s not normal gang.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

That’s gross.

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 1w

probably not

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

Probably not fr cuz only thing that’s really cheating in a relationship is what both parties agree is bad

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 1w

Yes he knows

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

I do it with my boyfriend too. He also already knows.

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 1w

I don’t see myself ever catching feelings, but if he ever does or if he tries something then I’m ending it immediately

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

okay well then if HE doesn’t care that you are doing this, we have no room to judge. if this was my girlfriend, i’d be pissed personally.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Wait why u cuddling with someone who isn’t ur bf?!

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

He cares a little but not in a bad way. Like he cares because he’s glad I have an outlet and he knows he can trust his friend

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 1w

Because it’s a coping mechanism

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Anonymous 1w

Don’t say “sure…” as though you know me better than I know myself.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

yeah but the fact you have to find someone who isn’t your boyfriend to do this clearly means you don’t care about your boyfriend enough and shouldn’t be in this relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

i feel bad for the boyfriend here tbh poor man

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

It’s not like I sought out someone who wasn’t my boyfriend. Me and the other guy went through a traumatic experience together and ever sense then slight physical touch just really helps us to calm down and process our feelings. My boyfriend is able to help me too, just not quite in the same way

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

then date the guy you had the experience with. no need to cheat on your boyfriend. and there’s no reason to get mad about us telling you that it’s cheating when you yourself admit that it’s not a good thing to do.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Hold on it’s his own friend? LMFAOOOO yo TKO , but fuck it if he’s cool with it then carry tf on lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

My boyfriend and I both don’t consider it to be cheating. Yeah it’s not a good thing, but it’s not good because it fucking sucks that I had to go through a traumatic experience with him. I don’t want to date the other guy because I don’t love him, I’m not romantically interested in him, and I only see him as a friend

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 1w

Well we’re all friends, but they were friends first. Yeah he’s cool with it, he knows he can trust us

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

There are many ways to deal with trauma than physical touch with another guy- you’re just refusing to try to find another solution which shows weakness on your part.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

I’m already exploring other solutions! I’m in therapy and I’ve recently started anti-anxiety meds

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 1w

You’re right a partner could totally consider it cheating, but in my case my boyfriend is totally aware of everything and doesn’t consider it cheating at all!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Then why are you still doing this with this dude!? Why would you look for other solutions if this isn’t a problem in your eyes!? Your stories make no sense!

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

Because so far he’s the only thing that has worked. But I can’t keep this up with him forever so I should find more independent solutions

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

like you??

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