Confessions on Sidechat | I’m a guy, I was molested as a kid and it hypersexualized me. I hate that it completely ruined how I viewed the world, relationships. As men it isn’t really spoken about and how that can affect you especially when u end up in toxic relationships. Sucks.

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Confessions 1w

I’m a guy, I was molested as a kid and it hypersexualized me. I hate that it completely ruined how I viewed the world, relationships. As men it isn’t really spoken about and how that can affect you especially when u end up in toxic relationships. Sucks.

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Anonymous 1w

Same for me 😞 there’s a lot more male survivors out there than people think, but Jesus heals❤️‍🩹

Anonymous 1w

Exactly, and I hate how society is just like “man up”

Anonymous 1w

I’m so sorry that happened to you. I agree, we don’t talk nearly enough about male survivors, and when it is talked about it’s often minimized or just brought up to win some argument which is fucked. Just because it happens to men less often than women doesn’t mean it’s not just as devastating.

Anonymous 1w

I feel you. I was fine until I talked to my wife about it. Never thought she would use it against me and it does suck. Made me relive every moment of it

Anonymous 1w

I have too know how that is. This isn’t something to be made into jokes, but it is. I believe no child should lose their innocence that way.

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Anonymous 1w

I haven’t talked to anyone about it but it does explain how I am today being forced to do things before even knowing what the he’ll I was doing really messed me up

Anonymous 1w

I’m sorry that happened to you man

Anonymous 1w

I’m an asexual guy and was convinced by my first ex that I needed to “fix myself” and was SA’d by her during and after the relationship. I had two other relationships—thankful with much better people—before I realized what I was doing to myself and what had happened with my first ex. it’s something that’s stayed with me (obviously) and it’s so incredibly difficult to discuss with people about why I absolutely hate being seen as inherently pursuing sex because of my gender.

Anonymous

#4 1w

Is this ur current wife?

Anonymous

#4 1w

that bitch need some divorce papers

Anonymous

OP 1w

She is. And I did think about a divorce, took time apart but she apologized and said she was molested too and didn’t mean it. I believed that but I’m suffering from flashbacks, shit that I thought I would never remember. It feels like she brought it back and I feel like it’s my fault for opening up. I was fine dealing with shit on my own

Anonymous

#4 1w

Have you talked to a therapist about it?

Anonymous

#3 1w

Nope. She says it’s not her fault that I’m having flashbacks and my parents should’ve taking me to a therapist. But I was fine so it’s confusing to hear that

Anonymous

#3 1w

Yes more so in my later years but it’s a lifelong process. There are aspects you heal and aspects you learn to manage. Over the years i accumulated more trauma so it complicates things. I have what is called CPTSD. I’ve Sen everything from violent murder to rape and personally experienced both rape and attempted murder as well as war. Lots to work through however I am in counseling and have been for over a decade now. I have a wonderful wife and kiddo. As successful career and a family, blessed

Anonymous

latino.orc 1w

I was 8 when it started. Been a sex object from then through most of my 20s and 30s for others to use. Manipulated etc etc. My perp still out there. God will handle that

Anonymous

#4 1w

Bro I’ve been there. You need to leave her it’s only gonna get worse.

Anonymous

OP 1w

I hope the worst of 💀to those people to dare touch children that way.

Anonymous

latino.orc 1w

What sucks is that many have been victims and conditioned to behave in certain ways. It doesn’t excuse crimes it explains them. At one point they made choices and victimized others.

Anonymous

#4 1w

Feel free to message me I have some insight that’s helpful and relatable.

Anonymous

#4 1w

Your issues can also be triggering to her if she’s a victim of abuse and there is a thing called avoidance and deflection which is common for people who have trauma.

Anonymous

#4 1w

She's being a bitch. Couples counseling or divorce.

Anonymous 1w

stop being weird about an SA survivor’s method of healing. also no one here’s a fundamentalist like you apparently think.

Anonymous

#8 1w

dawg you are the paragon of shittiness

Anonymous 1w

That was a one-time command from God as judgement against the Midianites for leading God’s people astray with sexual debauchery and idolatry, not something put into common practice. And that was in the old covenant, since Jesus now we are in the new

Anonymous 1w

This is not the time or place for this discussion. This person mentioned Jesus because religion helps them cope with their trauma. Attacking their belief is unnecessary and rude.

Anonymous

#1 1w

While I understand that, I also understand that the fantasy novel they worship advocates for the very thing they suffer from.

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Anonymous

#8 1w

get bent weirdo nobody lives by the old testament and you know it, you can't possibly be that dumb

Anonymous 1w

Again: This is not the time or place for this conversation. This is not what this post is about. You want to debate the complexities of the Bible go somewhere else, we are talking about SA survivors. You insensitive asshole.

Anonymous 1w

dude genuinely stfu. someone’s SA experience isnt your battleground against religion.

Anonymous

#1 1w

And here I am criticizing a book that supports SA. The Catholic church has a dedicated fund for paying off SA cases for a reason, and they're primarily New Testament. Also, I'm replying to a commenter, not OP.

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Anonymous

#10 1w

I'm not trying to minimize anyone's experience. I'm just saying religion objectifies women and children for a reason. Speaking of, the guy who SA'd my dad and his friend in grade school is now a Christian talk radio show host. Interesting huh?

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Anonymous

#8 1w

DM me and we can talk about it further