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Over the last year I’ve had a lot of failed talking stages and most ended up really weird. I just matched with a guy and hes being normal but now every normal thing he does I panic bc it reminds me of an ex fling. I’m trying to remind myself he’s not them
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Anonymous 3w

take it from me - i had the exact same experience, i’m now dating him. it’s tough, there’s moments where i fail to separate my traumas from reality, but it’s a work in progress. you’ll figure it out hun 🫶

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

Thank you! I just want to regain that trust that there are normal and nice guys out there but that’s also exactly how I felt when I was with my exes. So like it’s not even a trusting him it’s trusting myself

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

i’m still learning this myself, this is also just my personal view on things so you def don’t have to agree, but i just figured i can’t spend my life being afraid of the bad. it won’t prevent it from happening, as much as we think it will - so i just told myself that yknow what, id rather love 100 times over and get heartbroken than not love at all (if that makes sense)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

learning to trust yourself is a long and difficult journey, believe me i’m still struggling a lot with it, but i think we’ll both find it’s worth it in the end. the right person will understand it’s a long journey, and will be there to help you along the way. I know I found that in my boyfriend, who i never thought id find after the evilness that was my ex 😵‍💫

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