Anonymous #1 8w

Ok fucking nerd

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Anonymous #1 8w

literally everyone ik whose married currently not even 25 yet is not really rich or financially stable

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Anonymous #2 8w

😭🙏

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Anonymous #4 8w

Wow…really? you can must be smarter then me

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Anonymous #5 8w

Ya they definitely get that it’s just that people are doing it too young. Like try reading the post before you comment nerd

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Anonymous #2 8w

bruh are you okay… why do all your replies in this thread sound so weirdly agitated

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Anonymous #4 8w

I think it’s funny

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Anonymous #4 8w

and lowkey same

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Anonymous OP 8w

Thanks bro *daps you up*

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Anonymous #5 8w

I just don't understand why . Why is that the meaning of your life? Essentially if you're a women, like you're so much more to you than being a wife and mother.

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Anonymous #2 8w

OP wasn’t replying to you 💀

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Anonymous #2 8w

I don’t think 25 is too young 😭. That is my point. Please read my comment before commenting yourself. Some women just find their desires in that direction and don’t want to waste time pursuing things that they won’t enjoy

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Anonymous OP 8w

It’s just a difference in priorities and desires. For example, I am a very traditional woman, so my desires point me to that life. Like, when I think of watching my kid grow up and being a key role model in their life, then I get really excited. When I think of achieving a job I really want or any recognition, that is not as exciting to me. Women can go either route these days, it’s just want I find myself desiring

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Anonymous #5 8w

*I just want to pursue my desires (I don’t know why I worded it that way on the last sentence)

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Anonymous #7 8w

bro thinks the reason people don’t want kids is because they “can’t keep a meaningful relationship” 😭😭😭

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Anonymous #4 8w

Bro thinks other ppls lives affect his🤡

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Anonymous #7 8w

… no? 😭 how tf are you extrapolating that from me finding marriage & childrearing unappealing. I’m minding my own business

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Anonymous #7 8w

I mean, tbf everyone is interconnected and so obviously everyone’s lives affect one another, but something tells me that’s not what you meant

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Anonymous #4 8w

If you were minding your business you wouldn’t gaf about the next person and their family babe

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Anonymous #7 8w

I don’t give a fuck though buddy, that’s literally what I’m saying

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Anonymous #8 8w

I agree. We all have different priorities in life and each person should be able to pursue that in their own way

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Anonymous #5 8w

can any of y’all read? OP isn’t interfering with anyone else’s lives by not being able to relate, please give up the victim complex

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Anonymous #4 8w

No I’m agreeing with you. OP is chill (unlike 2). I’m just saying that we should all be allowed to pursue what we find purposeful in life

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Anonymous #5 7w

then you likely misread the comment you replied to, because #8 was pretty clearly implying that OP was somehow Not “letting them be”

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Anonymous #5 7w

25 sounds young in the grand scheme of things, but someone ideally should’ve finished college and gotten a stable job by then. And if that person wanted to get married, 4 years after college with a stable career seems like the perfect time to do it

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Anonymous #8 7w

My issue is that if someone doesn’t want to work and would rather be a full time parent, then I don’t think they should be pressured into going to college. It’s a waste of money if they’re not actually going to use that degree

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Anonymous #8 7w

Like, why are we pressuring everyone to fit in the same box when every person has different goals in life?

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Anonymous #5 7w

a formal education can absolutely still be worthwhile even if you don’t plan on applying it to a future career! that doesn’t make it necessarily a waste of money. but yeah, I def agree that going to college shouldn’t be treated as a universal obligation

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Anonymous #5 7w

personally though, I think it’s a good idea to delay having kids somewhat. to be clear, I don’t have any particular cutoff age in mind, and I’m not here to condescend to anyone who chooses to become a parent at 25. but the more maturity and life experience you can accumulate prior to taking that step, the better-prepared you’ll be

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Anonymous #4 7w

I just think that if someone is responsible enough to decide they want to dedicate their time to having a family, then they should not be looked down upon for it. I personally want to have a kid by 24 or 25 because I want to be there for them as they grow up in life. I agree that life experience is important, but that does not mean that raising a family stops you from partaking in more life experiences. It makes it more difficult, yes, but you can grow in experience with the family too.

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Anonymous #4 7w

Also I just wanna say that I am enjoying this convo and it’s nice to discuss this with people that are so chill

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Anonymous #5 7w

earnestly not here to argue with your life goals, but waiting an additional 5 years would not preclude you from remaining in their life as they grow up and I wasn’t saying that having a family prevents you from gaining life experience, I’m saying that a person’s capacity to be a good parent hinges on their maturity. most people make all kinds of mistakes at age 25 that they wouldn’t replicate at age 30, so a child generally has a better chance at a stable upbringing with a slightly older parent

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Anonymous #5 7w

and yeah, like I’m very much not a “traditional values” type myself but I totally respect the points you raise about personal autonomy / resisting the idea that there’s a universal “best” path in life 🤝

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