Anonymous #1 18h

It’s a valid one but not for the very first back and forth conversation 😭

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Anonymous #1 18h

It is a very valid question, the problem is that my answer is more loaded than the question itself and would probably scare that mfer off fast as fuck without him getting to actually know me first

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Anonymous wing_leader 18h

Oh I agree it’s wayyyyyyy too fucking quick. But unfortunately some people just don’t wanna waste their time and treat like an in and out type of thing.

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Anonymous OP 18h

If they’re not too interested in context then you don’t really need people like that in your life 🤷🏻‍♂️

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Anonymous #1 18h

You’re completely right about that

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Anonymous #1 18h

That’s valid. However it’s a common thing that if a woman brings up that she was abused in the relationship, the guy then listens to weak parts of her and uses it against her later on. My experience, not everyone’s I get it. But after the 4th time it happened, I just say my last relationship was mutually parted.

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Anonymous wing_leader 18h

Guys can definitely be manipulative and predatory. I just think the question itself is looking for a lack or presence of accountability. That’s why I said it was valid. However the timing left much to be desired if I’m honest. He should’ve had more class and social acumen 🤦🏻‍♂️

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Anonymous #1 18h

Agreed.

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Anonymous wing_leader 18h

That’s what worries me! My past relationship was filled with abuse, physically and mentally and was so extremely toxic. Of course not all men are going to use it against you, but one of my friends always tells me “never tell a man how poorly you were treated before because they’re going to think they can treat you the same and get away with it”

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Anonymous OP 18h

I’m so sorry love. I definitely come from that background and it’s why I’m so damn picky and mean to men now lol. But yes, that’s what a guy friend did say to me too after he had to pick me up off the side of the road because a date left me after I wouldn’t sleep with him.

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Anonymous OP 18h

Not ALL men. But enough to make sure you need to keep your peace safe. 🖤🖤

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Anonymous OP 18h

Oh hun 😔 it’s always difficult to convey those feelings to someone new. And your friend sounds like she’s been hurt too. Just try your best to take people as they are, not as what you’re afraid they’ll turn out to be okay? Also fuck your ex

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Anonymous #1 18h

Fuck your Ex!!! Yes he had been through shit too. You’re amazing and don’t let a man ever dim your light again! I’m going out with the girls tonight, I’d invite you if you were nearby! Women stick together 🖤

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Anonymous wing_leader 18h

Careful with that tequila ma’am 👀

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Anonymous #1 17h

Who are you and how do you know me 😂😂

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Anonymous #1 17h

Oh I thought I was answering OP, earlier my bad

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Anonymous wing_leader 17h

You get one guess and if you fluff it, you’ll get sent straight to the gulag

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Anonymous #1 17h

Dad is that you?

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Anonymous wing_leader 17h

No, it’s your great Aunt Phillis

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Anonymous #1 17h

Shut up and only answer me on snap for now on 😂

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Anonymous wing_leader 17h

LMFAO

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