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we need to start calling out women more often for saying misogynistic/patriarchal things (e.g.: if you’re a woman saying men and women can’t be friends bc men are all lustful, that’s gender essentialism rooted in patriarchy)
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Anonymous 10w

Fr I see a lot of women upholding traditional gender roles, toxic masculinity, and homophobia all the time

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Anonymous 10w

Real

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Anonymous 10w

I don’t really consider that misogynist or patriarchal. I don’t mind the first clause of your statement that much I guess or necessarily disagree but the second clause, I can’t say I agree, I find that to be almost nearly a biological fact for most people or a lot of people. At least in many instances. If you’re not attracted to someone at all I suppose it’s different possibly idk

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Anonymous 10w

U right tho

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Anonymous 10w

Misandry *

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Anonymous 10w

That’s not the reason I believe that. So go head and downvote. My justification is that in nature we actively see either the girl or boy try and initiate more than a friendship because they developed feelings overtime or concealed them in the beginning. These events, not scenarios happen too often to dispute them

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

I think it’s fair, and tbf i’m coming from a queer and neurodivergent lens so my perspective on cross-sex friendships is prob different, but I still don’t think that it is as biologically hardwired as some say. There are other “biological” impulses people resist and control all the time (violence, stealing, etc), and the same is possible and accessible within cross-sex friendships. also thanks for your good faith

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

the idea that men/women are all one way because of biology is definitionally bio essentialism and bio essentialism is a fundamental principle of patriarchal thinking and a cornerstone of patriarchy, misogyny and transphobia

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

You might disagree and think the second claim to be true, but that doesn’t mean the claim itself isn’t gender essentialist. To say that men and women can’t be friends due to lust implies that you believe that all men are lustful, which is a gender essentialist extension of the fact that *some* men are lustful.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 10w

What is wrong with people today

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 10w

no actually

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Word idk then

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