
I think you might be misunderstanding- “born this way” as I understand it means like, the brain. The mind. The pre-wiring, if you will. Sexual orientation and gender both fall into that, with some people having a more clear idea of what and who they are than others. Brains grow, too- people change. The point is that “born this way” is relevant to those who use the phrase; it means they haven’t changed, and no amount of outside opinion will change them.