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I told my bf he could watch 🌽 if he’s not dependent on it and is honest about using it. Yesterday I saw he had some screenshots on his phone that he hurried to delete and then perm deleted them today. I feel crazy that I’m upset by this.
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Anonymous 2w

ur not crazy at all, there were clear boundaries set and he crossed them bc his addiction was more important

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Anonymous 2w

But u already told him it was okay?? Communicate w him how u feel now if anything’s changed

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Watching porn and screenshotting it and trying to hide it is very different

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

The screenshot part is a little weird but the hiding it isn’t bc there’s already a shameful stigma around it so he probably didn’t feel good with her finding it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

It’s just hitting me harder because we’ve been together for years and he’s told me that he only uses what I send him. I just don’t know why he’s lying

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

It’s the fact that he’s not telling me and actively hiding it that I have an issue with. I don’t care if he still watches it.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Your feelings are completely valid, which is why I said u should communicate how u feel. Regardless of what randoms online are saying you guys have your own boundaries just make them a bit clearer to him.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Ooo lying about it is really icky

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

It’s just awkward because then I’m outing myself for going through his phone

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Agreed. Like why would you lie when you know I don’t mind you using it?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I thought he knows u saw it which is why he hurried to delete them? Either way u can still bring it up and say u weren’t looking through it u just wanted to use it for smth and came across the ss on accident

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

We didn’t directly address it when it happened, I think we just saw them at the same time when I was looking at pics over his shoulder and he didn’t think I saw them. Then when I asked for his phone to look at other pics from that night he hurried away to avoid me seeing them. When I actually saw them was looking in his recently deleted folder which is much more of a deliberate move than scrolling through

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Oohhh icky 😟

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

What were they of?

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