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I hate hook up culture. We're witnessing the collapse of old relationship structures without anything meaningful replacing them. Women are being desired but not pursued, seen but not truly met.

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Anonymous 16h

I mean as a man I’ve never been desired, pursued, or seen. Welcome to my world I guess

Anonymous 15h

Welcome to being a man.

Anonymous 17h

Why is cheating at all time high?

Anonymous 13h

First of all, we have this conversation every year. This is nothing new. Also stop the gender wars. It’s not like women don’t treat men like objects too.

Anonymous 16h

Agreed

Anonymous 13h

I think the solution is intentional community, built by inviting vetted individuals who have something to contribute, and I think whatever intimacy people need would probably flow from that.

Anonymous 12h

Boomer logic: “put penis in vagina multiple time to produce multiple assets/investments.”

Anonymous 12h

Hookup culture has been diminishing yk that right? Like it’s not that no one wants to, it’s that no one wants to put in the effort The reason relationships don’t work anymore is that no one really cares to do anything for anyone but themselves

Anonymous 11h

Well you know women could pursue too but they choose not to

Anonymous 9h

There is no hook up culture that’s a myth people either want to date or not

Anonymous 13h

Simply put, this dating culture that you dream of has never existed and is likely a product of Disney and Hollywood.

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Anonymous 12h

Sucks for women but it’s awesome for us guys that don’t want kids. I can have sex with a bunch of different women while never committing to one

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Anonymous 12h

A victim mentality definitely is a package deal with woman hood.

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Anonymous 12h

What was the point of giving yall equal rights and you were going to refuse to ever be accountable for your choices…

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Anonymous 14h

i just wanna get railed man

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Anonymous

#3 14h

this is so pathetic

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Anonymous

#6 13h

What’s pathetic about it? As far as I’m aware it’s a common experience among men. We’re supposed to be the chasers and the providers, not the ones who are wanted or pursued or cared for. So we just end up feeling unwanted or undesirable

Anonymous

#3 13h

Idk man anytime I’ve pursued a man, they end up getting scared off or simply not interested. Ive found it’s better to treat them like rabbits and unfortunately it all feels like a game

Anonymous

#7 13h

Its not a gender thing but men are so lustful and then theres the women who go along with it, its all gross and finding real connection is hard when ur not sure whats real or just a game of cracking, situationships, ghosting

Anonymous

#3 13h

most men look for women to cook and clean for them. basically to be their mommy. romantic prospects are often even directly compared to their mothers. men absolutely expect to be cared for. like babies

Anonymous

OP 13h

Women are lustful. Being a woman does not absolve you of committing the same sins that men commit. And women aren’t just mindless victims and all men aren’t manipulative assholes.

Anonymous

#6 13h

Most women look at men like a bank account that’s supposed to provide everything for them.

Anonymous

#3 13h

Maybe you’re ugly

Anonymous

#7 13h

well when you’ve had centuries of economic advantage when everyone else has been systematically oppressed, yeah kinda. also most women are not like that tbh. you’re probably just ugly if they only want you for money. on average women are more highly educated than men and most of those highly educated women aren’t looking for a man to pay for everything. they just don’t want a bum to drain them

Anonymous

#6 13h

Black men have never had an economic advantage over all women so miss me with that bull crap. Also I’m gay so miss me with that one too. And for women to simultaneously be highly educated as well as easily manipulated make no sense. Take accountability for your actions.

Anonymous

#7 12h

Women can be lustful yes. But men are naturally way more lustful, its all about self control which is harder for men to have then women. Neither side should be sleeping around casually yet thats what people. Sex is just seen as an empty trade, i dont see the point. Men no longer pursue women as before because they only look for something easy which so many women give to them. No one is willing to slow down and wait

Anonymous

OP 12h

There is NO scientific evidence that proves men are more lustful. Like there just isn’t. Men just don’t complain like you do.

Anonymous

OP 12h

Not naturally but society allows men to be more open with their sexual desires than women

Anonymous

#7 12h

There is scientific evidence. Large-scale psychological meta-analyses (such as those reviewing dozens of studies on sexual attitudes and behaviors) have consistently indicated that, on average, men report higher frequencies of sexual thoughts, fantasies, and desires, as well as a higher incidence of behaviors like masturbation.

Anonymous

#9 12h

You have your own choice. Hold yourself accountable. Regardless of what society says.

Anonymous

#7 12h

When it’s an experience for 1 in 3 women, it’s hard to not feel targeted.

Anonymous

#7 12h

Men have always been more sexual since the dawn of time and it’s natural

Anonymous

#11 12h

Okay? Men also feel the same way. They feel like they are used as a meal ticket. They feel like they have no value if they aren’t a certain height or don’t make enough money. It’s not just you.

Anonymous

#11 12h

Hell black men are hyper sexualized by women everyday.

Anonymous

#1 12h

Because it likely wasn’t being recorded accurately beforehand

Anonymous

#12 12h

Gross

Anonymous

OP 12h

I’m almost 100 percent sure a woman made this comment

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Anonymous

#3 9h

Facts same here man

Anonymous

#6 5h

You’re saying shit that was true when our parents were our age. Cmon, we’ve had equal enough rights for enough time women aren’t that oppressed as far as opportunity goes it’s pretty much even at this point.