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Confessions 1d
the invalidation of male SA victims simply because their aggressor was female is insane.
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Anonymous 1d

yup. story of my life. literally got drugged and dragged and still no one gave a single amount of fucks.

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Anonymous 1d

Yep, happened to me at a club. By a woman employee, discreetly. I sure as heck froze up and then realized I couldn’t say anything with my friends around. 😬😒

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Anonymous 19h

had a guy tell me about his 14 year old babysitter making out with him when me was 9, he was laughing it off acting like it was so normal. i almost cried it's so horrible how they even invalidate themselves

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Anonymous 20h

Half a bottle of tequila deep and she knew I didn’t wanna have sex way before. I proceeded to say no but she still got on top. I was too drunk

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Anonymous 1d

lol so real

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

i’m so sorry :( it really sucks cus i’m always scared to talk about it because of the potential reactions but i was literally 13

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

i feel you, happened twice which is why i don’t go to bars anymore

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 17h

invalidating is how we cope because reliving just puts us in a bad place

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

yeah very true, but still, it's sad that you have to do that because it's less accepted when it's a man

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 17h

that is just the cold hard truth, because of some guys all women are afraid of us and because of some women, no one believes us and that’s just the way that it goes at least that’s what I tell myself because it’s easier to say that’s how it is than to go against everyone who doesn’t believe you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

I really do have a lot to say about this, but I don’t because it’s wasted effort

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16h

yeah and that's okay, ofc i'm not blaming the men themselves for not speaking out or invalidating themselves so don't worry

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 16h

i know, the topic just hits the wrong cord for me and we also don’t have very good coping mechanisms like lack of support

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16h

yeah absolutely like toxic masculinity making it seem like men should deal with everything alone

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