Confessions on Sidechat | My friend is pissed that I dont reach out but how do I explain that I just don’t wanna talk to anyone (like literally no one unless necessary), am I an asshole?

Sidechat

Download

Join communities on Sidechat Download

Confessions 1d

My friend is pissed that I dont reach out but how do I explain that I just don’t wanna talk to anyone (like literally no one unless necessary), am I an asshole?

Anonymous 1d

You sound depressed. You should reach out though (to everyone in your life). You don’t have to talk for long but keep those connections

Anonymous 1d

Not talking to people is never the answer. And your friends are going the shit too. They probably need you right now

Anonymous 1d

This is me for real tbh I think just tell them you need time alone instead of just disappearing. Thats the one thing I wish I did instead and you don’t owe people an explanation about YOUR TIME. If you didn’t already have plans they don’t need an explanations. Your mental health is yours to tell who you see fit.

Anonymous 1d

If you’re not gonna be helpful or understanding stop replying, ive owned up, apologize and tried to be better im not trying to wiggle out of anything, im sorry that you’ve had the misfortune of meeting so many people that don’t take accountability but the truth is this is a yikyak post you don’t know the full story so let’s not get ahead of ourselves and act all mighty

Anonymous 1d

how my ex was and tbh yea because we are also struggling and just wanna help but push people away

Anonymous

#2 1d

Going through shit*

Anonymous

#2 1d

They need the person I was, brain fog has truly caused me to lose most if not all my personality and creativity

Anonymous

OP 1d

Honestly even showing you still care about them makes a difference

Anonymous

OP 1d

No they just need you

Anonymous

#2 1d

It’s never that simple

Anonymous

OP 1d

Maybe not but it’s worth it

Anonymous

OP 1d

Go hug your friends

Anonymous

#2 1d

We don’t hug….

Anonymous

OP 1d

You better start

Anonymous

#3 1d

I have told them mutiple times but it just seems like my company and attendance matters more than my mental state

Anonymous

#2 1d

I hate physical touch….. i dont even let my mom touch me bruh

Anonymous

OP 1d

Omg text ur friends

Anonymous

OP 1d

I’m the same way, just text them when you can, reach out even after months if that’s what it takes, and let them know ahead of time

Anonymous

#1 1d

(Same in the sense I don’t like being touched)

Anonymous

#1 1d

The problem is when my friend expressed that she was upset that I wasn’t reaching out I tried to text more but I was met with passive aggressive energy or no energy at all. I understand everything is not gonna be dandy immediately but her reaction also plays into the reason I don’t want to reach out, im anxious for the type of reaction I will get if I even ask to plan a hangout

Anonymous

OP 1d

That’s an excuse. Now you’re changing the rhetoric

Anonymous

#2 1d

But the fact is it’s true, there has not been ONE time where i have reached out and nothing bad happened

Anonymous

OP 1d

You know what man, you twist all the past experiences you want. If you aren’t willing to be there for your friends, there’s nothing I can do to stop you.

Anonymous

#2 1d

No please explain it to me, how am I twisting it

Anonymous

OP 1d

You changed the rhetoric. Now you’re throwing in new stories to support things you hadn’t said before. It’s obvious that you’re just making excuses because I said something you didn’t want to hear

Anonymous

OP 1d

That’s understandable she was probably hurt and acting out or trying to match the amount of effort she thought was appropriate tbh. It’s better than just not doing it tho, it may take a bit to forgive but a true friend will. Even if you make friends super easy it’s important to keep the ones you have.

Anonymous

#2 1d

It’s not new stories…. It’s the same story with more context….

Anonymous

#1 1d

I agree this person knows me better than anyone which is what has caused me to be so conflicted, we went from seeing eachother every day to long distance so it been a werid shift now thats its summer we are closer but it’s still werid

Anonymous

OP 1d

I know enough about people to know when somebody is trying to wiggle they’re way out of accepting responsibility for their actions

Anonymous

OP 1d

Directed towards #2

Anonymous

OP 1d

Yo dm me let’s talk

Anonymous

#3 1d

Could have just dmed me😭

Anonymous

OP 1d

Yeah I wanted to let you dictate when or if we talk. Some ppl don’t wanna be dmed