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Why is it so hard to make friends :/ last year I dedicated like 6 months towards my social life & making new friends. I had very little return. Then I focused that attention back on myself & my life changed so much. But I miss having girl friends now 😭
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Anonymous 5w

Take this for what it’s worth but I think it’s harder for girls. I think there is an inherent level of competition that prevents girls from leading into friendship.

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Anonymous 5w

Honestly good things come when you just stop actively trying. Some people may disagree with this but it’s happened to me EVERY TIME I focused my energy elsewhere. Most of my friends fell into my life unexpectedly…they weren’t forced

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Anonymous 5w

I think as we get older, people don’t want to make new friends. They create a big friends group and slowly they lose contact with some of them but as their life gets busier, they are content with the number of friends they have and don’t want more. That’s partly why it gets difficult as time goes on (including a busier life ofc)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

It’s true. I’ve experienced this from my 16 year friendship. She admitted to being jealous of me & over the years I always noticed she was competing with me when it came to hitting milestones.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I believe it. Completely different dynamic there

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