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Confessions 21h
sure. but when certain behavior towards a certain sex keeps happening over and over, and is rooted in beliefs that go back hundreds or thousands of years.... we should look deeper. it's usually more than just someone "randomly" being an asshole.
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I feel like it’s not abt men or women being assholes, just assholes being assholes and It seems like a lot of ppl overlook that and just blame one side
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Anonymous 21h

this is about misogyny btw

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Anonymous 21h

Never said it was “random” or unmotivated, misogyny is a still huge problem even tho it feels like it should be a concept of the past, I was simply saying ppl tend to group in a entire gender over issues where it’s a small percentage of that gender doing it, i wasn’t referencing anything specific and there’s bad actions on both sides

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Anonymous 21h

This lol. It doesn’t and will never compare

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Anonymous 19h

Hi OP. Very true. This is why context matters. There is a general theme of toxic people but specific patterns and tactics by toxic people is also important to know.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

i can see the point ur making. years ago i probably wouldve agreed. yes, bad ppl exist everywhere, that goes without saying. but to say that "both sides are bad" and that its only a "small percentage" of ppl makes it seem like you think they're equally bad & harmful... which is intellectually dishonest & divorced from reality.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

out of curiosity. if its just a small percentage of men, can you explain why 1 in 3 women have been sexually assaulted? or why only around 40% of men identify as feminists? is it possible that you might be downplaying this issue?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

I think ppl are taking my post the wrong way, I’m not downplaying anything and I won’t pretend Ik what it’s like to be a woman bec I’m not one. Literally all I’m saying is that we shouldn’t generalize an entire gender, I’m also not saying it’s a small percentage of men, most that I’ve met in college are horrible, and I know the harsh reality for a lot of women. I just wanted to express that we shouldn’t label “all” men or women bad, after hearing so many “I hate all men” and “women suck”..

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 19h

I just got a little pissed off at the whole situation, I’m not trying to debate anyone or take a stance here

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 19h

I know, and I was worried that people would see me as a misogynist or someone who’s trying to say that interactions btw genders is equal, and I wasn’t trying to get in depth over toxicity patterns, just that they’re there.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

Can’t speak for the first part but I feel like a big reason why more men don’t associate with feminism is that it’s seen as a radical view. It’s seen less as an equalising movement and more a put women over men movement and that will push some men that sympathise with women away from identifying with it even though they do side with equal rights.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 15h

This is such a good take on this and I completely agree, I feel like a lot men see it as overpowering when it’s more equalizing if anything

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