Anonymous #4 1w

Highkey best take

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Anonymous #3 1w

Genuinely genius, I’m gonna try it

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Anonymous #6 1w

When are women going to figure out that hating on men isn’t cute?

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Anonymous #4 1w

When are men going to stop being crybabies about any form of cultural criticism? Snowflake much? Also, I don’t the goal of this conversation is to be attractive. Not everything us humans do is for sex

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Anonymous #6 1w

Why are you threatening us with that????

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Anonymous #8 1w

Haha I feel you

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Anonymous #4 1w

when are men going to figure out we don’t care if they think we’re cute?

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Anonymous #4 1w

Jeez twist my arm why don’t you

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Anonymous #14 1w

Are you fucking kidding me no it’s not the same thing. It’s like those idiots who say “I don’t see color” yes you do. These arbitrary traits like it or not have affected how we treat each other for centuries and are perpetuated by the system that benefits from them. Ideally yes respect and decency goes both ways, but men have not had a history of discrimination and degradation at the hands of the other women. Misandry as a practical matter does not exist in the United States; end of story.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Many men often make life harder for women, and they’re allowed to complain about it.

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Anonymous #17 1w

Placing the blame on women for how they get treated by men is insane. Their standards could be as high as a skyscraper but at the end of the day, a man could still decide to lie and charm his way into her life by pretending to be someone he’s not.

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Anonymous #19 1w

nono im not blaming them, im just saying people are to quick to start dating they dont see the possibilities with their partners after a while, i get that a man might try to “charm his way in” but at the end of the day if that happens, set boundaries, or just leave that person

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Anonymous #12 1w

literally they looking in the wrong places

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Anonymous #17 1w

“Just leave that person and set boundaries” many times results in domestic abuse to the women who try 🥰

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Anonymous #17 1w

Exactly. That’s exactly the point of the post. It’s more of an effort to throw yourself into a dating pool with so many unworthy, undeserving men, than to simply just romanticize the idea of someone loving you and treating you right.

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Anonymous #18 1w

1 in a million of that happening

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Anonymous #18 1w

Not to be an asshole or anything but are you seriously letting it get to that point? A person will always give you glimpses of their true self, nobody can change or hide everything. If those signs start coming up, you cut contact, end of story. If it gets to the point of them abusing you then you entertained it for far too long in the first place. Special cases exist obviously, but awareness and self respect are the first means you have to protect yourself.

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Anonymous #12 1w

exactly what ive been trying to say

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Anonymous #12 1w

Fr. If people want to use their experiences to form biases, then maybe I should do the same. All 3 times I’ve told a girl friend who was asking about advice about a guy or if I thought something was a red flag, I got blocked for saying yes and shutting down her trying to argue in favor of him and say “well he might not be that bad”. You’ll never guess what happened all 3 times 🤯 whaaaat he ended up being a bad guy and even SA’d one of them??!!?! No way, who could’ve *possibly* predicted that?

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Anonymous #6 1w

Well not blocked, that’s an exaggeration, but she completely stopped talking to me until the bad things happened and she needed to talk about them

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Anonymous #6 1w

And I never said “I told you so” because that’s just a dick move and you should never tell someone who’s just had a bad experience that, but dawg it gets to a point where you’ve gotta be able to see the signs

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Anonymous #17 1w

I don’t know why everyone is downvoting this. As a woman, I have seen far too many of my friends get with men who never deserved another date. If you find a man in a shitty place and he has a shitty attitude, and you entertain that… you’re going to get shit on! My standards are high and I have self respect, and my partner is amazing. The dating scene unfairly sucks for women especially, but it is your choice who you give time to and it’s a decision you need to be smart about from the get go.

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Anonymous #6 1w

That’s why it always pmo when women are like “it could be your friend and you’d never know, a lot of guys have friends who SA or have raped someone and they defend them or don’t know about it” no tf we don’t. We know who not to be around

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Anonymous #6 1w

Dumb ahh argument smh

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Anonymous #12 1w

Exactly like why are people even talking to these men, much less moving on to DATING them

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Anonymous #12 1w

I get what you mean and I hope I never would let it get to that point but a lot of people give others the benefit of the doubt when they shouldn’t and it ends in tragic ways. There’s also a lot of women who are raised to think that the shitty men in their lives are what they deserve and view it as normal. It’s a sad cycle that has a lot of work needed in order to improve and recently it seems like a lot more women are realizing and denying more shitty men.

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Anonymous #5 1w

“When are women gonna shut the fuck up and stay in the kitchen where they belong?” type answer. Fighting fire with fire is not the answer. Just because you’re shit at finding quality men does not mean all men are in that category

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Anonymous #12 1w

Here’s what I absolutely cannot stand about today’s women. See how none of them are congratulating you or even commenting at all toward your fortune? These girls don’t want to actually find a good man. They want to vent, berate, and point the finger anywhere but the mirror they pamper themselves in front of every morning. I’m glad you found a good one to hold your heart. Hard to find sister sister. :)

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Anonymous #17 1w

Not you 17 you tha goat

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Anonymous #5 1w

Women do that too

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Anonymous #32 1w

LMFAOOOO

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Anonymous #5 1w

Jesus get a job

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Anonymous #5 1w

You are an enabler of the cycle, not holding men accountable like you think you are. All you are doing is ostracizing men who do make the effort or recognize the disparities of society due to gender. People like you are what men idolize as evidence to their argument that women are emotional, inferior, etc. It doesn’t matter if what you’re arguing is correct, which it is, if you are applying your hatred unilaterally to all men.

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Anonymous #17 1w

I agree with you as a woman. And no people shouldn’t interpret this as victim blaming, nowhere does this say “it’s your fault for a man being abusive” the accountability is still on the perpetrator. But yes you do need to be aware of the often very serious red flags people show and you need to hold yourself accountable to your standards because that’s how you keep yourself safe. Ignoring that fact and perpetuating this victim complex only makes women look incompetent when we’re not.

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Anonymous #5 1w

So your saying that because of man's history it's okay for any person regardless of race sex or sexual orientation to berate all men. What does this solve? How about you hold men accountable for specific behaviors, instead of "dating men this dating men that...". This isn't a get-out-of-jail-free-card for men it's let's hold this type of behavior accountable. It's not fair to write off men without pointing out a solution or highlighting red flags and the type of men you want to avoid

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Anonymous #14 1w

i’m not saying that they shouldn’t be held accountable or that there are things that need to change but in my opinion it’s not any women’s job to hand hold and walk a man through changing his specific behavior and honestly i’m sick and tired of people trying to make women feel guilty for having a slight hatred for men cuz believe it or not we very much do still live in a misogynistic world where women generally don’t feel safe in environments with a lot of men

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Anonymous #31 1w

so again men need to hold themselves accountable for their own behavior cuz it’s not up to other people and especially not women who are constantly seen as just sex figures to make them be accountable

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Anonymous #35 1w

Yes we do know that, and we do date women 🤭

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Anonymous #7 1w

nah most of the women i see "hating" on men are just straight white women💀 like.. you clearly dont hate them!

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Anonymous #22 1w

Corrupted by hatred…. Driven by desire. Gotta love it lmao

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Anonymous #22 1w

That man literally worships the ground I stand on 😭😭

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Anonymous #32 1w

damnnnnn

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Anonymous #28 1w

I’m sure you posed this question as rhetorical, but I feel inclined to say….there’s a little bit of truth to every joke, and since this is a very broad statement directed to anyone who’ll see it…the men who haven’t spent their lives manipulating, using, or hurting women see it as an attack on their character. This is why delivery is important and context matters. I know this isn’t directed at me, but many men who haven’t become secure within themselves won’t feel the same

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Anonymous #5 1w

You can’t do cultural criticism on anyone except men otherwise it’s bigotry

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Anonymous #27 1w

The only thing you’re right about is that we want to vent. Obviously if we start dating a guy it’s because we want to be happy and see him in our future. Many times it doesn’t work out, and we may give the guy more chances than we’re supposed to, but that doesn’t mean we don’t want to be treated right. Honestly, most of the women here are probably happy for #12 and I’m glad she found her person but this post isn’t meant for her. It’s meant for the girls who relate to OP, and who ARE struggling.

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Anonymous #19 1w

I’m struggling with finding a good woman. I’ve been cheated on, raped, and then had my rape thrown in my face by a girl while she sent me pictures in another man’s bed. But I’m not allowed to say “I hate dating ALL WOMEN.” I can’t say anything about ALL WOMEN because that’s sexist.

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Anonymous #36 1w

Thank you. I'm sorry about what you went through. don't worry about anyone who tells you different. they're a hypocrite. Generalization is wrong and that's the end.

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Anonymous #19 1w

Sister… you are not one of the women I’m addressing with this word. Full stop. You said something I’d like to highlight. “Obviously, if we start dating a guy it’s because we want to be happy and see him in our future…” I want to gently bring you aware to the fact that you are the exception in many cases and not the rule. This is not the experience the grounded man has with his fairer counterpart, and I commend you for that. This is growing rarer by the day

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Anonymous #7 1w

Then why even open your mouth about men? Why are you complaining?

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Anonymous #12 1w

This is absolutely untrue. I've only been kind and respectful to girls my whole life and I've only been clowned on and made fun of for it. Or usually just called gay. If you try to have morals as a guy and respect girls in the way your mother taught you you are just ignored by every girl for being gay or not masculine enough

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Anonymous #19 1w

I don't blame women because I try to be open minded and not a jerk about this kinda stuff because ok it's sensitive. But keep in mind I have only Tried to be kind and respectful and stick to my standards of morals when talking to girls, and for the most part you just get your heartbroken or (for me 90% of the time) get called gay or weak

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