Confessions on Sidechat | I have a bf but he’s never eaten me out and I’m not going to leave him for it but if I go to someone JUST for that am I the bad guy 😭? I just want to enjoy a eater maybe 4-5 times a year

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Confessions 19h

I have a bf but he’s never eaten me out and I’m not going to leave him for it but if I go to someone JUST for that am I the bad guy 😭? I just want to enjoy a eater maybe 4-5 times a year

Anonymous 19h

I think you should communicate to him that this is important need for you and if he still refuses if it genuinely is taking a toll on the relationship I would leave. Why stay somewhere where you are unhappy? It’s unfair to both of yall at that point you can leave a relationship for any reason you want

Anonymous 19h

Tell him you’re gonna find someone else to eat it if he won’t

Anonymous 18h

if you talked to him (like you said you did) and he promises and never actually fulfills that promise then it’s a bigger issue than just eating you out, your partners word should be able to be trusted, i’d break up with him and you deserve better

Anonymous 18h

How long have you been together? 100% communicate to him. I was in a 4 year relationship. 16-20. With full full honesty I wasnt an “eater” at first either. However when time passed and we ofc got more and more comfortable, we tried new things. You talk about what you wanna try. Have you tried to talk?

Anonymous 16h

it’s very bad to pressure anyone into a sex act they’re not interested in, and it’s very bad to cheat just because your partner won’t perform a particular sex behavior but it’s totally reasonable to want a partner you’re sexually compatible with who enjoys the same types of sex you do, and on some level it’s his responsibility to set a clear boundary when he’s disinterested in something, instead of being like “yeah sure. some time”

Anonymous 17h

I don’t think it’s crazy I’ll be your eater. Don’t listen to them you not a bad guy.

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Anonymous

#2 18h

I have for like a year now and he keeps saying he will but never does and I told him I’m not marrying b someone who won’t please me orally

Anonymous

OP 17h

Yeah if it’s been over a year and he’s not doing it I think it’s more of an issue he’s making a commitment to something but not following through that seems like more of an issue to me. Him not wanting to do it is his own choice but lying about it isn’t good. If think you wanna end things I wouldn’t waste anymore time honestly

Anonymous

#6 16h

so it’s an issue of priorities and compromise. I think the reasonable options here are to either decide sexual incompatibility means the relationship has run its course & break up with him, or to make peace with the reality that he’s not going down on you

Anonymous

#3 14h

Okay so with more comfort and time passing did you find yourself liking to do it and or doing it more so for your partner ?

Anonymous

OP 13h

It was a little of both to be real. At first i didn’t enjoy it. To be real at ALL. Overtime i wanted to switch it up so i would try to do it for longer each time. not to be corny, but eventually i did actually like doing it. so to answer, at first yeah i would do it for her but id stop quickly. More and more i tried, it was longer pretty much every time. So now it’s enjoyable for both.

Anonymous

#3 13h

Ik doing the advice on here is easier said than done. so i dont wanna necessarily tell you what to do specifically. and in reality, its not even your fault. so its more ab HIS strive to do it ykwim?