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Used to think y'all were crazy for saying 22 and 18 is wrong until i dated a 18 year old and had to break it off bc she legitimately doesnt know anything about being an adult and it made me feel like a pedophile
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Anonymous 6w

You’d be surprised on the number of college students who have no idea on how to adult(schedule an appointment) I hope that they get it figured out before they graduate. Cause the outside world is not as forgiving

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Anonymous 6w

While age wise it could be appropriate, maturity wise, it’s like a toddler and a teenager.

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Anonymous 6w

Just went through this he genuinely couldn’t fathom that I couldn’t come over one night cause I had to go to work early in the morning. He also was just childish and did immature stuff in my opinion.

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Anonymous 6w

reading this as an 18 year old who has messed w much older men—yea you’re right. i’m literally a legal teenager who still has a curfew and is just now stepping into adulthood.

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Anonymous 6w

what we been saying 😭 it’s basically a senior in hs with a college grad, 4 years isn’t insane in the long run but the maturity difference is huge

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Anonymous 6w

Hard to pair it all with the same color. Each sit is different. I’ve met mature young adults and older adults that still somehow function as a teenager 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous 6w

Bro she just became a adult u can’t expect that 😭😭

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Anonymous 6w

i was 19 in a situationship with a 25yo and he was by far the most manipulative person i have ever met. he guilt tripped me into feeling bad for him when he did things that hurt me and would make me stay on the phone with him all day but i wasn’t allowed to “distract him” so i would just sit there quietly not doing anything. i eventually unadded him on everything and he spammed requests for 3 days. just thinking about makes me feel sick

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Anonymous 6w

Some people just genuinely don’t understand how to be an adult unfortunately

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Anonymous 6w

i’m 18 and know like nothing because my parents didn’t teach me anything. i had to call my boyfriend to ask if the water in my poi was boiling enough to put the pasta in. my parents dint even teach me how to cook. my boyfriend and i made a list of things to cook together over the summer so i can learn

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Anonymous 6w

i was the 18 year old dating a 22 year old straight outta high school and now that i'm almost 21 looking back it was SO fucked up. i didn't understand a lot about being independent and he assumed I would just know it all

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Anonymous 6w

As an 18yr old who’s about to graduate college, I also wouldn’t date an 18yr old. Then again, I’m just not participating in the dating scene.

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Anonymous 6w

As someone who was the 18 yo with a 22 yo I wouldn’t recommend it. Everyone is different and I am more mature and have had to be more mature to survive. What was so weird was how different our places in life were. He was graduating college and moving to another state for a job and i had just finished my first year. I loved him a lot and i never felt that he was going for me since i was younger but it did start to feel uncomfortable

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Anonymous 6w

I was 14 dating a 17 year old who was almost 18 (i turned 15 a few months after) but he didn’t even use shampoo. Like he used a bar of regular ass soap for EVERYTHING and he couldn’t make a box of mac and cheese for himself. He was in the grade above me and his brother was my age and told me they had shampoo. It was RIDICULOUS. Idek why i dated him atp

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Anonymous 6w

is 22 and 19 bad cuz im dating a 22 yo rn we started dating when he was 21 and i was 18

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Anonymous 6w

Weird it took you trying to realize that but

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Anonymous 6w

Reading these comments as a 19 yro dating a 21 yro 👀 (i pay taxes and know how to write an email)

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Anonymous 6w

Idk I’ve had some sus age gaps myself (I’m a girl and was younger) but the smallest age gap I had was 10 months and he was actually younger and it was my worst relationship he was genuinely a child and worse

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Anonymous 6w

i’m 18 (just finished first year of college) dating a 22 yr old who just graduated, it’s been fine so far

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Anonymous 6w

I still kind of think you’re a pedophile ngl

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

their parents fault for being incompetent and raising an incompetent kid

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

If you're in college there's no way you are that reliant on your parents where u can't even do basic adult tasks College doesn't have a specific age there's ranges of ages. You'd be surprised the amount of colleges students in their mid to late 20s who have the same attitude But as all things it's relative there are parents who baby their college kids even those one have a level of independence especially if they aren't commuting and I don’t mean financial independence

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

Hello

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 6w

Hi

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 6w

I don’t know a single 22 year old who is open to romantically being with a 19 year old. Hope that helps !

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 6w

22 & 18 is wild truly, fresh outta hs & full legal adult who can drink & has 4 more yrs of adult experience is so wild i agree

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Anonymous replying to -> #16 6w

ofc we’re not gonna be on the same page abt a lot of things

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 6w

Me and my bf started dating when he was 21 and I was 18 and we’ve been okay! We struggle sometimes cause there is a little bit of a maturity and experience gap, but for the most part we are pretty connected and I’ve learned a lot abt life since we started dating (im 20 now) and that’s made it easier

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Anonymous replying to -> #15 6w

Im 19 (20 in august) and talking to a 23 year old (24 in December)

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Anonymous replying to -> #15 6w

i would say yes but no too because factually idk how many 22 year olds you know 😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 6w

Out of over 20 people none of them would be interested in a 19 year old

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 6w

girl run please do not make my mistakes

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Anonymous replying to -> #19 6w

this is helpful. honestly me and my bf are really good and communication is there too. i think i need to also realize everyone has had different experiences too and im not thinking about that 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #18 6w

I’m 19 and I’m the worlds worst “cook”😖. I’m working on it though

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 6w

I third this. It is simply not normal.

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 6w

i second this. i’m 21 and my bf is 22. when we started dating i was 19 and he was 21. i knew how to pay rent, pay utilities, get a money order, write a resume, and even knew a lot about financing/loans. he only kinda knew how loans/etc worked. i feel significantly older than him even though im 17-18 months younger.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

Yeah that’s a huge deal breaker for me

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Anonymous replying to -> #22 6w

listen at least you’re trying!!! my boyfriend didn’t know how to cook before me, and he’s 22, just now learning.

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 6w

Frrr

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Anonymous replying to -> #17 6w

i was with the same age gap and he cheated and gave me an STI (thankfully one that was curable)

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 6w

I’d heavily advice you to focus on yourself because many men who go for women that are younger than them do not always have the best intentions in mind because there’s always gonna be some sort of maturity gap even if you think you’re a mature person for ur age and this is coming from a 19 yr old who’s dated older men before. It’s better to focus on urself bc ur still understanding who u are

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 6w

It definitely does raise concerns. Grooming can happen very easily when there’s a big maturity gap and I think that’s the biggest issue. It doesn’t matter if they thought the younger person “seemed mature.” It doesn’t work that way.

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Anonymous replying to -> millikin.bunbun 6w

Girl don’t be ashamed about this either I’m the same way, have fun learning to cook, I still haven’t lmao (23)

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 6w

So did i bruh

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Anonymous replying to -> #22 6w

He wasn’t even trying, that was the problem. Hes gone job after job, nothing has been long term, barely did his school work and yet his brother could do all this easily. He was really just a bum and theres no other way to put it since it still holds true

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