Anonymous #1 4d

because as a guy having female friends shows emotional maturity and shows that you can have relationships with women that aren’t sexual. so it’s a green flag bc u see women as people and not sex objects. but if the only girl “friends” you have are ones you’re currently fucking or have fucked it kinda defeats the whole purpose.

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Anonymous OP 4d

Now as a guy side of this I’ve heard this before. My exes would get mad bc I talk to her to much. Then would start to get jealous and it just ends in a shit show.

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Anonymous #1 4d

well that sounds like u had a girl best friend not female friends.. which is problematic and I’d also be mad if I was ur exes lmao

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Anonymous OP 4d

See it’s a tricky slope as a guy. If you are toooo close it’s bad if you aren’t close enough it’s bad.

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Anonymous #1 4d

i feel like it’s not that complicated idk just having female friends in general is a green flag but being particularly close with a female friend can potentially cross boundaries

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Anonymous OP 4d

The point still stands that while a girl might be supportive of having good friends, she may still be suspicious of a good person. Same shit my girl said and thought I cracked my gbsf like the mf wasn’t all the way back in my homecity. Its a double edged sword regardless on both teamsz

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Anonymous #1 4d

no it’s not a tricky slope at all.. I feel like guys always just say this as an excuse to avoid accountability.. it’s the same thing yall said about the me too movement and started saying stuff like “oh I won’t even look at a women bc she’s gonna say it’s sa” so over dramatic 😂

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Anonymous #1 4d

Idk if not being close enough has ever resulted in a problem ngl, crossing boundaries isnt a possibility that exist unless you let that happen. We all have a choice.

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Anonymous #3 4d

yeah that does happen. it’s usually just bc of past relationships and guys lying about being friends w girls they’re cheating w. but it’s not fair if ur an actual good guy, just makes it hard to date. but every relationship is different you just have to have good communication and mutual respect

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Anonymous OP 4d

Yeah, people be moving relationships with trauma nowadays, the one thing I never understood is that if I was cheating on my girl with my gbsf, I just wouldn’t let her know her existence or dumb it down. Inconspicuous typa thing, like people just be stupid nowdays and let other peoples existence be fully known and then cry and complain when they get caught like they didn’t basically screw themselves over from the start?

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Anonymous OP 4d

I’m telling you from our side girls don’t like it. This is based on my experience I’ve had. If I talk to them they get jealous and start question and I’ve legit never cheated on anybody and have a hard boundary set. So there is a fine line there. It’s why when I’m in a relationship girl friends aren’t a thing it makes it way easier and less fighting

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Anonymous #1 4d

Yeah I can see your point. It really depends on the girl. Personally I like when a guy has female friends as long as there isn’t anything sexual going on idgaf. tbh for some of my exes I’ve had better relationships with the girl friends than the guy himself

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Anonymous OP 4d

I had a girl accuse me of cheating on her bc a friend of mine who lived in bama came to see me when I lived in Florida. My gf at the time ended up becoming a brides maid in that wedding and still accused me of cheating. That girl and I never even looked at each other in a bad way lol. It’s just very difficult.

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Anonymous OP 4d

How would you know anything sexual is going on?

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Anonymous #1 4d

at the end of the day i think if u want a relationship to survive then it should be easy to drop a female friend for your partner. i just feel like if ur having trouble choosing between a friend and a gf you don’t like your gf all that much. I’ve dropped guy friends just bc the guy i was dating wanted me to bc I thought he was more important in the long run

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Anonymous OP 4d

As a guy who has done that, I would never do that again, you can have your suspicions but if i know im innocent u gotta deal with it?

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Anonymous #3 4d

You don’t. But you never know in a relationship regardless. They could cheat on you at work, school, anywhere if they wanted. That’s why you have to build trust and have boundaries in place like if you’re hanging out privately at ur female friends house or picking up the phone any time she calls I’m going to assume something fishy is going on

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Anonymous #3 4d

huh? r y saying u cheated lmao? and wdym I gotta deal with it?

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Anonymous OP 4d

See I don’t think that’s healthy. Why should I drop a friend who’s been there for 5+ years when I’ve known you and dating you for 3 months? That being said as long as the friend hasn’t done anything wrong and treating you with respect as well.

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Anonymous lightbluehater 4d

plenty of men

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Anonymous #1 4d

i think every relationship is different. personally l only date to marry. so if i become exclusive with someone by that point ive already gotten to know them well enough. also it really just depends on what u prioritize.

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Anonymous OP 4d

That’s insane

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Anonymous OP 4d

No im saying if someones assumption has no basis then it just sounds dumb, like you need to have some sort of logic to strongly believe your partner needs to cut off their friendship if you think something is happening yk. Not just “I have a feeling”.

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Anonymous OP 4d

why would a guy assume its about fwb that sounds stupid. Yeah “A woman I can sleep with without any emotional attachment is such a green flag for my future girlfriend”. Nah

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Anonymous #3 4d

I disagree tbh, intuition is a powerful thing. I wish i listened to my gut feelings more often

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Anonymous #3 4d

they know it’s not about fwb it’s just an excuse I’ve heard.

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Anonymous OP 4d

An excuse or just bs? That line of logic literally doesn’t make sense in any scenario for a future partner.

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Anonymous OP 4d

No, intuition is just unconscious awareness of specific actions that make you think or feel a specific way, only you aren’t processing enough or noticing enough consciously to likely figure it out. At least to me, and if that is the cass then I think about what could logically make sense and put the pieces together, not just “assume” something is up and turn out dead fkin wrong. Thats the same thing my ex said, twice, and was dead wrong on both occasions. Proof is always better than speculation.

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Anonymous #5 4d

deadahh, if we fuck we are not freinds

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