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my boyfriend told me that he has slept with two men and I don’t know why it bothers me so much. I realize that it’s my own insecurities that makes me feel this way but I can’t help but feel like I can’t please him in the way a man can. Any advice?
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Anonymous 1d

As a bi man this is my worst nightmare. I am so scared to tell women that I’m bi. Also this might be something you have to work through yourself in therapy. But know that bisexual people (myself included) can experience attraction differently. I’m not looking for the same thing in a man as I am a woman. Ultimately: if he didn’t want you and you weren’t pleasing him, he wouldn’t be with you. But he is with you, which means he likes you

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Anonymous 1d

The stupidest part is, is that im bisexual myself. I don’t know why im like this

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Anonymous 1d

He’s openly bisexual and tries to reassure me. It’s just been hard coming to terms with my biases over bisexuality.

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Anonymous 1d

Honestly sometimes I feel like I do make him feel bad about being bisexual. I do tell him it’s not him, it’s me and my insecurities that’s the problem but he probably beats himself up for it. The last thing I want to do is hurt him

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Anonymous 1d

Your husband is gay

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Thank you this is what I try to tell myself

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

That’s all you can do besides therapy as far as I know. Support him and let him support you. Keep in mind: him being bisexual does not automatically mean he’ll cheat, and it doesn’t automatically mean he wants threesomes. He is with you, and if he feels comfortable enough to be openly bisexual around you then that means you might be pretty safe. He likes you for who you are. A lot of people have hidden insecurities. Just make sure your insecurities don’t become complete biphobia/homophobia/abuse

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

To add, yes, being biphobic or homophobic to your bisexual partner absolutely counts as abuse. You’re clearly not at that stage because you’re admitting and addressing your insecurities, which is very good, but I just want to make sure you don’t get there

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Internalized biphobia and homophobia. It happens to all of us at some point or another. You could try therapy if you want. Or just talk with him (and/or other bisexuals) about it too

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Thank you for the advice. I’ll keep it in mind while moving forward

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Happy to help 🫡

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

no need to be a biphobic asshole. he’s bisexual, not gay.

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