Anonymous #4 4w

Key words, however, were “at the same time.” Yes, perpetrators can be, and often times are, victims, but you cannot be a victim and perpetrator at the same time.

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Anonymous #2 4w

Yes they can. Co-dependent relationships are a great example. Both partners are victims themselves while victimizing each other

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Anonymous #2 4w

No, you can be the victim to one thing as well as the perpetrator to another. Life isn’t always black and white and it’s bad to think so. This could be a grey area which ofc not always very possible. Emotional distress can cause people to act irrational and do things they may not have done under other circumstances. It definitely depends on the details of situation and you’d have to take into account both perspectives, this is why court and jury is a thing.

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Anonymous #4 4w

I think we’re looking at this at a similar lens, but still missing each other. I understand what you’re saying, but one cannot be actively a victim and actively being a perpetrator at the same time.

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Anonymous #2 4w

In just speaking in general terms, it IS possible. But without knowing OP’s specifics that they’re being intentionally vague about we can’t really give a definitive answer here. It is possible to be both victim and a perpetrator at the same time, actively

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Anonymous #4 4w

Fair. It depends on the specifics, I guess

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Anonymous #2 4w

Look at the Gypsy rose case, Gypsy was the victim to medical abuse and manipulation from her mother, she then in turn klled her mother the abuser. Her being the kller makes her both a victim and perpetrator in the situation. Now ofc OP is probably talking about romantic relationships and it’s probably way less intense but it’s possible for a victim to be a perpetrator even in thoes situations.

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Anonymous #5 4w

Oh, good example! #4 and #5, thank you for this.

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