Anonymous #1 1d

You don’t want that*

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Anonymous #1 1d

exactly—even a 24/7 Dom/sub relationship involving literal worship is necessarily gonna hinge on careful communication, self-awareness, being open to accepting and reflecting on your submissive partner’s critiques etc (hell, a dynamic like that actually calls for even *more* checking-in & emotional flexibility than a vanilla relationship tbh)

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Anonymous OP 1d

Absolutely. I’m kind of in a dynamic like that with my partner, but not quite as intensely as you’d probably assume. It’s mostly just in the bedroom and not our lifestyle as a whole. Regardless, we are ALWAYS pointing out things we can both improve on. Someone’s always bound to be unhappy if they’re enabling every single thing the other does and says. No couple is a perfect match by default, it still takes a lot of work

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Anonymous #3 1d

I completely agree! But there’s definitely a way to put your partner on a pedestal without it being to a fault. I absolutely idolize my partner, I think he’s the best man I’ve ever met (romantic or not), and I will never shut up about it. I also hope everyone can find someone like him. At the same time, he has his faults and I have mine, and we don’t ignore that. Still, neither of us feel like we’re settling in any way.

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Anonymous #2 1d

I know? 💀 didn’t imply at any point that it was. a ton of the posts from those “dark feminine” spaces talk about using men to your advantage in a transactional fashion, that’s part of the cheap caricature you’re referring to And the reason I bring up SW. because using seduction to get money, items and/or services = transactional sexual attention = sex work

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Anonymous #3 1d

heavy emphasis on “some guy” (as in “just some guy, not someone who you find equally impressive”) and “the idea of me” (as opposed to “the real person”) in my post the post is referring to the “dark feminine” girlies, whose whole gimmick is swapping manipulation techniques. they aren’t out here talking about how to find a genuine & mutually-fulfilling romantic relationship

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reading comprehension please! you misinterpreted the post and now you’re misinterpreting my replies to other people. sexual relationships aren’t meant to be transactional outside of sex work—if you’re trying to get money, items & services out of men in exchange for your sexual attention then you’re by definition either 1) doing sex work or 2) imitating sex work poorly by just exploiting someone under the guise of feigning interest in them

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Anonymous #3 1d

also, in this context, “serve like a queen” ought to communicate pretty straightforwardly that I’m talking about an unfairly skewed power dynamic rather any mutual displays of care

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Anonymous #1 1d

you called it with that first comment lmao

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Anonymous OP 1d

(*rather than any, oops)

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Anonymous OP 1d

No you misinterpreted my comment. My point is you can exploit a partner and have it be 1) not be sex work 2) not be an imitation of sex work. There’s a difference

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Anonymous #2 1d

homie the comment you’re replying to was in response to #3. I replied to you before that

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Anonymous OP 1d

I know, I was responding to your reply to me

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Anonymous OP 1d

I understood what it meant and didn’t need the explanation, but thanks for the clarification. Did you ever consider they are genuinely seeking a mutually-fulfilling relationship? Who’s the judge of that? Absence creates desire…isn’t that dark?

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Anonymous #3 1d

your comment was about “not settling” and “and he can be my King”, very different from the situation I was describing, so you pretty clearly did need the explanation. unless you leave irrelevant comments on purpose for some reason?

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Anonymous #3 1d

and people who are truly looking for mutually-fulfilling relationships don’t manipulate their potential partners. it’s that simple. also, please save the corny “isn’t that dark? 🥀👻” pseudo-philosophizing for your tumblr

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Anonymous OP 1d

Are you playing relationship referee again? Manipulative people are everywhere. Can they not seek mutually-fulfilling relationships perhaps 🤔 you think they deserve less love than yourself because manipulation is their trait. I question your opinion. Oh it’s dark dear, very dark.

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Anonymous #2 1d

I mean, you phrased it like you were responding to what I said to #3, but okay you sound confused. I’m telling you I know extremely well that not all D/s dynamics are SW, and nothing about my post signaled that I needed that explained to me. I also never said that exploiting a partner was always SW or an imitation of SW, I specified that I was talking about the transactional part. you’re not making sense

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Anonymous #3 1d

relationship referee??? 😭😭😭 girl you are voluntarily demonstrating exactly what I meant about people who aren’t ready for a relationship no, manipulating & deceiving someone is not the foundation for a functional & mature romantic relationship, full stop. when you’re a grown-ass adult who respects and cares about your partner, you don’t play mind games or deliberately fuck with their mental health, you communicate with them openly

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Anonymous #3 1d

but the way you talk is really giving “cringe high school satanist” like I used to be when I was reading up on the same rhetoric the “dark feminine” girls push, so I’m not convinced you’re legally an adult in the first place

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Anonymous OP 1d

Assuming, judging, lack of hearing, and lack of understanding seem like great communication techniques you are batting 500 tonight ref. 🥱

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Anonymous #3 1d

nothing you’ve said in this whole thread has been relevant to the original post and all of it has been annoying

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