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How can I get rid of hating fat people? They just irritate the fuck out of me? I know it’s because I’m scared of turning fat
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Anonymous 1d

idk, making friends w fat people and getting comfortable talking with and seeing them and thinking about them seems like it would help. feels insane that i even have to say this but think of it like exposure therapy, overcoming your biases isn’t gonna happen overnight and you have to get good at recognizing them so you can continuously challenge them

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Anonymous 1d

move out of america

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

😭😭😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I did, this summer I finally had a gay friend and it made it worse because whenever we were out she was saying let’s eat, and at the beach she didn’t have a proper shape and mast everywhere so I hat to stop seeing her because I felt very bad each time I was hanging out with her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

a proper shape and mast?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

*fat friend

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Idk why my keyboard is autocorrecting 💀 like I hate the way their body is shaped and there are meat everywhere that you can’t see their shape

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

maybe you just felt like your problem was getting worse bc you were confronting it instead of avoiding it? idk, i’d say it’s still worth it to keep interacting w fat people despite how much worse you may feel and at the same time as that start working through your own relationship to your body and food, bc it sounds really unhealthy if you’re projecting it onto other human beings

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

sorry i can’t offer advice for how to improve your body image and relationship to food though, that’s outside my own experience

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

one last thing though: i’m autistic and sometimes i struggle w being apathetic to the people around me, but something that helps stir up my empathy is to imagine them going through their morning routine and imagining the thought they put into their outfits and makeup and them enjoying breakfast or some music in the morning. even if it’s fiction, the specificity and remembering their inTeriority (not inFeriority!) helps me humanize the people around me

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

* “them” goes for all sorts of strangers and acquaintances, not just fat strangers and acquaintances

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Thank you, these are good advices. I’m healthy, I’m not those ed people that are bone thin, idk maybe it’s because growing up my family always shamed fat people and thats the reason

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