Anonymous #2 5w

You remind me of the "your pussy belongs to me" guy

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Anonymous #2 5w

Hm. I challenge this. Do you agree men are visually stimulated?

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Anonymous wing_leader 5w

I would say that humans, irrespective of gender, are visually-stimulated. But yes, that would include men. Why do you ask?

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Anonymous #3 5w

I’m just being rëal. As long as I communicate what the expectations are upfront, it shouldn’t be a problem. It’s only problematic if I act like everything is fine but then secretly hold it against somebody. I’m saying that there should be a standard of behavior for when you’re in a relationship. Not sure how that’s a controversial statement.

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Anonymous #2 5w

I directly was asking only about men but okay. Why do you feel women must cover up once they are taken? Is this all aspects? The gym, beach/pool?

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Anonymous wing_leader 5w

Not at the beach of the pool because that’s impractical. At the gym, maybe. Like, don’t be wearing spandex and a training bra and then get upset whenever men look at you. Wear a tracksuit or a T-shirt and shorts or something. And you cover up (or, at the very least, are more mindful about showing skin) out of respect for your partner. Even if they’re someone who doesn’t care, it’s a way to respect your new status as a taken woman.

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Anonymous #2 5w

Or as a taken woman you can respect your partner by declining male attention. As a man, do you still like women’s bikini pictures when you’re in a relationship?

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Anonymous wing_leader 5w

Well I’m not in a relationship so no, I can’t say that I do that. And yes, declining male attention is another way to respect the relationship. But also, you can be proactive instead of reactive. They’re not mutually-exclusive.

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Anonymous #2 5w

Respectfully, I don’t want to do long posts on here. Would you be comfortable doing a DM?

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Anonymous #2 5w

Think the disconnect is that what that “standard of behavior” should be is subjective (and sometimes needs to be challenged or broken down more). Like this seems to imply her skin is inherently sexual and by showing it she’s being disrespectful because it means she wants to make men look at her or to micro cheat. Not sure I agree with that. But I agree talking about your expectations upfront to see if you’re on the same page is important.

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Anonymous wing_leader 5w

Sure. That’d be fine

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Anonymous OP 5w

Even if you and I don’t believe that her showing skin is inherently sexual, it’d be foolish of us to not recognize that’s how a considerable amount of people out in the everyday world see it. I agree that it’s a perception thing and perception is always subjective. But also, I’m not going to act like other people don’t exist in this equation and that it’s somehow all up to her.

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Anonymous #2 5w

You gotta turn your DMs on

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Anonymous #2 5w

I mean sure? Guess that goes into the diff ways people cope with existing in society. Either you do your own thing or you tend to other people’s possible perceptions. I’m not gonna say there’s one right or wrong way but it’s important to be upfront and make sure the two of you agree on how to deal. Especially since it can be a slippery slope. I know some guys take it as far as you can’t have friends of the opposite sex for the same reason which I’d never be okay with following.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Oh nah. I’d never go that far with it. But I get what you mean.

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Anonymous wing_leader 5w

I wasn’t aware that they were turned off. Should be fixed now!

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