Confessions on Sidechat | If you’re picking up a girl for a hangout in your car DO NOT TOUCH HER WITHOUT CONSENT. Theres a high chance she doesn’t like it but is scared bc she is in your car & doesn’t know what you’d do so just don’t especially 1st hangout! STOP TOUCHING

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Confessions 1d

If you’re picking up a girl for a hangout in your car DO NOT TOUCH HER WITHOUT CONSENT. Theres a high chance she doesn’t like it but is scared bc she is in your car & doesn’t know what you’d do so just don’t especially 1st hangout! STOP TOUCHING

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Anonymous 1d

and i’m not sure why ppl have smth to say against this. it says “without consent.” that literally just means asking before to make sure it’s okay 😭 and also if you disagree w this consider the fact it’s a “hangout” and not an established date

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Anonymous 23h

Nah first encounter that’s hug at most unless she makes a move first (which is always more satisfying)

Anonymous 1d

That’s true for you, but then there are other women who are like “why won’t he be a man and take initiative and make a move??”

Anonymous 5h

To my fellow men, ALWAYS MAKE SURE SHE CONSENTS TO *EVERY* ACTION INVOLVING TOUCH. Firstly, it’s just kind. Secondly, the legal system has been and will likely always be rigged in women’s favor on every issue regarding consent, even if it genuinely wasn’t your fault. Be safe and be kind!!

Anonymous 16h

I hate how we call things hangouts. is it a hookup? a date? if he says hangout i always think he only wants sex and it’s just. ugh.

Anonymous 3h

Lwk always ask before doing something it’s just common sense, been on multiple dates where I’ve asked to hold hands etc just to make the other party comfortable

Anonymous 17h

Also don’t accept a car date

Anonymous 11h

Ima pick her nose

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Anonymous 6h

Ughhh men are soy gross. They remind me of Kevin spacey in that one movie

Anonymous 22h

I mean yeah if it’s the first time I’m meeting her but normally I’ll go out for a hug, especially if it’s an online friend I haven’t seen in-person before

Anonymous 20h

Like no hugging or thigh touching?

Anonymous 15h

stfu!

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Anonymous 22h

maybe bring urself to the date then

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Anonymous 1d

Bro stfu. These yikyak women don’t want you

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Anonymous

#1 1d

On a first hangout..? And making a move does not mean rubbing all up on my thighs- a first hangout is when you guys are getting to know each other so it should be about talking and figuring out if you guys are compatible- honestly outside of the excessive touching & kinda sexual comments he was fine but it was making me so uncomfortable I blocked him when I got home, bc again this was my first ever hangout with him and he felt entitled to do such things

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Anonymous

OP 1d

Yeah even on a first date. I think the key is to get a feel for each others preferences ahead of time, but even then that’s the tricky thing in dating. I’m sorry you were made to feel uncomfortable.

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Anonymous

#1 1d

Yea it just really sucks how so many guys feel like they can just immediately kiss or touch you without consent when you barely know them.. it’s disheartening and scary and I wish men didn’t do that

Anonymous

#2 1d

Use your reading comprehension skills, I’m clearly a woman

Anonymous

OP 1d

You think I read all that bs 😂😂

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Anonymous

OP 1d

I’m literally wiping as we speak

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Anonymous

#2 1d

Sounds good

Anonymous

OP 1d

Drinking water rn wbu

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Anonymous

#2 1d

how did you make it so far in life without having the ability to read a few sentences

Anonymous

#3 23h

I can. Just didn’t want to. Does this help? Hey Google, DoorDash me some baby powder cause this boys is getting whooped

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Anonymous

#6 22h

wait this is about dating? 💀 why is it a hangout and not a date 😭

Anonymous

OP 22h

If you send me $8000 I’ll hide in a bush and jump them. Since I’m a nice guy you can do half up front, and half later.

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Anonymous

#1 22h

"getting a feel for each others preferences" is best done in a conversation, rather than touching someone before asking just to figure out how they'll react

Anonymous

#8 22h

the solution to not being touched without consent is to meet them there? maybe they shouldn’t be touched without consent, wild idea ik

Anonymous

#6 22h

she’s specifically worried about the car. so yea bring urself if you don’t trust them.

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Anonymous

#6 22h

as a girl btw. don’t be a damn bird.

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Anonymous

#8 21h

I think the parts that she has in all caps is what she’s most worried about tbh

Anonymous

OP 20h

okay bird

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Anonymous

#1 19h

I feel like more women want a man who will make sure your comfy more than a man who “makes a move” I’m not playing chess man- bros only moves should be consensual more than anything else

Anonymous

#14 7h

With your toes

Anonymous

#16 5h

do you have evidence for the second part /gen. because from what I’ve seen it’s more of a “believe the victim” deal regardless of gender

Anonymous

#6 4h

A 2026 academic review found that 759 known SA cases from the previous decade were wrongful accusation and conviction. It’s obviously a smaller demographic of cases, but it exists, and that’s what we men need to be aware of. Better to be safe with every action and be slightly annoying for the number of times you ask for permission than just straight up 14 years or more behind bars

Anonymous

#16 4h

All that aside, the bigger thing is to just be kind to her and considerate of her comfort in situations involving physical contact.