Anonymous #3 17w

Why judge ppl for sleeping with or not sleeping with ppl?

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Anonymous #1 17w

So true it’s so annoying

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Anonymous OP 17w

Consensually on both sides as well, mind you

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Anonymous OP 17w

Well in the dating world it tends to be pretty important. I would say it doesn’t matter generally. But when you try to date people, it’s an important factor to some

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Anonymous #3 17w

I’ll never understand this. The only thing I’d wanna know is whether they have any experience so I know what to expect with them if we were to have sex. Do I care/will I ask how much experience? No. Will I judge them for being a virgin or having a high body count? No. Y’all are so nitpicky over every little thing. I couldn’t imagine caring this much over something so small

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Anonymous #7 17w

I’ll say that people that I know, they’ve said they don’t want to be with someone people can say that they’ve Been intimate with. Feels less exclusive I guess.

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Anonymous #3 17w

i mean personally i’d prefer to be with a partner less people have been inside. partly cause it makes the act feel more connected and intimate. less of a “oh everybody’s been here” more “hey this persons doing this with me because of the connection and strength of the relationship”

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Anonymous #5 17w

I’m gonna hold y’all’s hands while I say this but this is a part of the purity culture. I’m not saying you’re wrong and evil for this, but your views on sex are heavily influenced by the puritans. You’re allowed to have this preference, you don’t have to defend yourself, but op is expressing their frustration with this being a very dominant view and how sex is tied to morality and desirability which is a whole nother talk that includes the idea of a less experienced partner being more intimate.

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Anonymous #6 17w

A pencil sharpener that’s sharpened many pencils is a good sharpener, but a pencil that’s been in many sharpeners is tiny and used up

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Anonymous #6 17w

Also *many

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Anonymous #1 17w

Someone’s a whore 😂😂 flip the script all u want deep down u can’t fight the facts

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Anonymous #6 17w

And so what if I am how tiny and used up is your pencil???

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Anonymous #6 17w

Also *is

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Anonymous #6 17w

using a metaphor comprable to the tired out one you used first and being called a whore for it is insane

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Anonymous #5 17w

And that’s valid because that’s your preference

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Anonymous #9 17w

Yes

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Anonymous #10 17w

It isn’t a flex but it should be normalized

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Anonymous OP 17w

Why?

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Anonymous #10 17w

Why it should be normalized? Well having shame for sleeping with multiple ppl or even worrying about having a body count is stressful. It should be the same for virginity both should be treated similarly

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Anonymous OP 17w

No it shouldn’t, a virgin and a person who’s been around should not be considered the same, people with a high body count don’t worry about having it, they’re not stressed from that

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Anonymous #10 17w

Why?

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Anonymous #10 17w

I think it should be normalized that we don’t care or judge ppl by their body count

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Anonymous OP 17w

Because people tie it to their values, trust, and what they want in a partner so they judge it based on that, even if not everyone agrees.

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Anonymous #10 17w

So basically it’s just purity culture and I guess since that system is already in place it doesn’t need to change

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Anonymous OP 17w

Dawg it’s not just purity culture it’s a reason sleeping around and having multiple partners isn’t good

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Anonymous #10 17w

U talking about the increase likely hood of getting an std?what’s the other reason besides that?

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Anonymous OP 17w

Ur acting like that’s a casual reason only, that says a lot about you. A high body count would have people question the intentions of a potential partner. Are they looking for another notch on his bedpost? Love 'em and leave 'em kind? You’d question their maturity or ability to commit or remain faithful. It would be like picking up a threadbare jacket that had been through a charity shop multiple times.

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Anonymous #10 17w

What says a lot about me? Also having a higher body count doesn’t necessarily mean those things. Just because u feel insecure if a person will stay faithful to u doesn’t mean they are unfaithful. Someone who could only have been with 1 person ever could still cheat.

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Anonymous OP 17w

Yes it does, it means exactly that, what other reason do you have for having a high body count other than not wanting to commit or just wanting to sleep around, regardless of how YOU feel facts are facts

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Anonymous #10 17w

What facts? There is literally no facts in our discussion only personal opinions.

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Anonymous OP 17w

Everything I said earlier was a fact, please enlighten me on what other reasons a person would have for sleeping around that I haven’t said

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Anonymous #10 17w

😭plz enlighten me on where ur getting these ‘facts’ from other than ur personal opinion

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Anonymous OP 17w

You’re not answering my questions, just avoiding them and answering with emotions, I’m done here, have a good night

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Anonymous #10 17w

😂says the person also answering with emotions and not facts. I told u already it was just opinions but ur presenting it as facts. So yea bye u didn’t have to comment on my post

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Anonymous OP 17w

I literally answered everything you asked, ur post was just a useless excuse for you to sleep around

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Anonymous #10 17w

😭I’m literally a virgin I have no intention to sleep around also

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Anonymous OP 17w

Good for you

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Anonymous #10 17w

My post was to point out how much it aggravates me that people think I’m pure b/c I’m a virgin and puts me on a pedestal or me being a virgin is used as an insult. I feel that high body counts is also in this mix of what people tie with worth.

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Anonymous OP 17w

I have a question, would you consider Bonnie blue and you the same?

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Anonymous #10 17w

I hate the whole thing about people caring how many people u do or don’t sleep with

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Anonymous OP 17w

Yea I understand but now answer this, would you consider you and Bonnie blue the same, because by ur logic a virgin and non virgin are valued the same, or should be

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Anonymous #10 17w

Yes

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Anonymous #10 17w

Jesus

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Anonymous #10 17w

Bro ur value shouldn’t be tied to ur body counts

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Anonymous OP 17w

Hey, If that’s how you feel, then go for it

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Anonymous #10 17w

Once again the whole point of my post. all of it is an opinion. I think it should be normalized to have a higher body count. I genuinely think ppl shouldn’t care and put so much worth it.

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Anonymous OP 17w

It’s cool to think that, but there’s a lot that comes with a high body count, there’s no way around it

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Anonymous #10 17w

U should say could come with and not does b/c everyone isn’t the same

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Anonymous OP 17w

Sure

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Anonymous #1 17w

🤓

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Anonymous OP 17w

No it should not be normalized

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Anonymous #11 17w

😭idc ur not going to change my mind

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Anonymous #1 17w

ok but who cares if it’s part of purity culture. not all of it is inherently bad. if someone sleeps around with hella ppl it shows a lack of self control and is franky demonstrating degeneracy but wtv ik that’s an unpopular opinion now

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Anonymous #12 17w

Why is sleeping around a sign of lack of control? Like if someone who takes birth control every day at the same time and/or consistently uses condoms or some other form of contraceptive and gets regular or semi regular sti tests every couple weeks or so sleeps around a lot, do they have a lack of self control?? Does the having sex with more people than socially acceptable negate everything all the self control required to do that safely.

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Anonymous #12 17w

It’s one thing to judge someone for being irresponsible and risking spreading STIs and stuff, it’s a complete other thing to connect the act of sex with morality and judge people for having more than you think is acceptable

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Anonymous #12 17w

Also *frankly

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Anonymous #6 17w

Can’t compute when your crap metaphor is revered on you huh?

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Anonymous #6 17w

Manny locks

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Anonymous #1 17w

It’s literally as simple as not wanting to be with someone that everyone has accessed. Sure they could be clean and whatever, but me personally being with a girl everyone has hit doesn’t sit right by me. I wouldn’t date a girl that has more bodies than me

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Anonymous #1 17w

if they’re having sex with basically everyone they see yeah it’s a sign of lack of self control, they can’t sexually control themselves and then taking pre causions doesn’t negate that they still can’t keep it in their pants

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Anonymous #1 17w

well i do connect sex with morality so

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Anonymous #1 17w

personally, i'm not gonna be with someone who doesn't regard sex as an extremely intimate thing to do. it's the closest you can physically be with someone, if someone can’t recognize that and they're just having it with anyone that's morally questionable

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Anonymous #12 17w

Completely valid preference to have. It’s completely understandable to want to be with people who are on the same page as you about what sex means in your relationship. But how is casual sex morally questionable?

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Anonymous #3 17w

Now what you’re describing here is a personal preference. If your personal preference for personal relationships is minimal to no sexual experience, that’s fine. The problem would be if you’re going around assuming anyone who has a lot of sex is inherently immoral. If you’re not doing that then none of my comments apply to you.

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Anonymous #13 17w

Exactly. And let’s all share less

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