Confessions on Sidechat | Reading peer reviewed studies on how evil many men are (5-15% rapists, 22-57% guilty of SA, 95% guilty of trying to persuade a no into a yes) and remembering the one ex who showed basic human decency. Will I ever find this again?

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Confessions 23h

Reading peer reviewed studies on how evil many men are (5-15% rapists, 22-57% guilty of SA, 95% guilty of trying to persuade a no into a yes) and remembering the one ex who showed basic human decency. Will I ever find this again?

Anonymous 22h

Damn that’s insane, I never even thought to try and convince a girl to say yes if she said no, though some girls do probably want you to persuade them so they say no to begin with, but I’d never assume that.

Anonymous 23h

Uh, you got a source for those numbers? Because 60% guilty of SA seems like a ridiculous number unless we start including a really wide definition of SA

Anonymous 23h

Probably not

Anonymous 16h

I know a lot of men are gross but I’m not buying those numbers AT ALL

Anonymous

#1 23h

Yes. Sadly I do. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4484276/

Anonymous

#1 23h

Also the rape stat is apparently 6-15%. I mis-remembered. It’s all in the intro to this paper, original papers cited. I don’t want this to be the reality any more than you do. But sadly it is.

Anonymous

#1 23h

Here’s the 95% one https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/08862605261432630

Anonymous

OP 23h

Ah I see, so it’s a range because it’s multiple papers with multiple different results

Anonymous

#1 23h

Yes, and they’re all bad. And lived experience corroborates their findings. And I’m not going to settle for a guy who displays any of this behavior. So probably I need to find a way to become lesbian.

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Anonymous

#2 22h

Well either I find a unicorn or I go 4b. I know maybe two men that I’d actually trust as a partner. Finding such a man who is mutually attracted to me… yeah the probability is so low and all I want is basic humanity.

Anonymous

#2 22h

Oh actually it’s 4, but two of them are gay.

Anonymous

#3 22h

Congratulations, you’re part of the 5% who possess basic human decency. Pls talk about it with your male friends.

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Anonymous

OP 22h

I’ve cut off several friends cause they were creeps to my girl friends

Anonymous

#4 7h

I linked the studies. I was shocked too when I first saw it. Shocked and disappointed. But this is why it’s so important to have these conversations. If we stay quiet, this will never change.