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Seeing my mom on meth last night mentally broke me maybe I’m being dramatic but I don’t know what to do about her anymore
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Anonymous 5d

I’m so sorry OP

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Anonymous 5d

You aren't being dramatic at all. Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do. An addict can't get clean/help unless THEY make that choice/THEY want it. Ts is soul-destroying. Addiction is such a f*cking awful parasite, it turns a person into a monster who can literally only think and act in interest of their DOC. My mom, sister, and I all got the addict gene 😔

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Anonymous 5d

i’m sorry

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Anonymous 5d

If you’ve already tried to get her help and she doesn’t want to be helped, leave her on her own. You can lead a horse to water but you can make them drink it. They’ll realize the error of their ways with enough time and make the decision of whether they want to change or not. If they don’t want to change, it’s not your fault. You did what you could.

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Anonymous 5d

Get a baby picture of her, tell her you want to drive her to lunch, pull up to the psych ward, and tell her that you’re committing her to get her help, or that she can self-commit. And that if she won’t do it for you or for herself, that she should do it for her 4 year old self (or however old she is in that picture.) remind her of things she loves doing that aren’t drugs and tell her you want to see her live a long life so she can do more of that and that the doctors will help her there.

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Anonymous 5d

i’m so sorry you’re going through this. it’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling, angry sad upset etc. let yourself feel those emotions, seek support from others. there are support groups for children of addicted, maybe that can help you process this. as a child of an addict you are seen and heard 🫶 if you need to talk i’m here

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Anonymous 5d

Why are humans reverting back to tribal thinking? It’s always the blacks or whites gays or straights women or men the left or right you vs me everybody is contributing to the problem while they blame someone else it’s your tribe vs my tribe

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Anonymous 5d

I’m on meth rn let’s gooooo!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

Honestly? If you need to move away from her/cut her from your life until she's ready to get clean, you have every right.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

She has been like that for as long as I can remember. I never lived with her but she always came in and out. I live in my own apartment now but I don’t know if I want to completely cut her off because my dad passed away six years ago and she’s the only parent I have left.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5d

Thank you

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

But now that I think about it that’s the only reason I try and there’s no benefit in keeping her around. You’re right cutting her off is the best option.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

Thank you

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

I'm sorry dude, I really hope she ends up seeking help. Sometimes a massive gut-punch like a child cutting you off can give someone that jump-start to get serious about getting help. I'm 11 months clean, and honestly, it took a LOT for me to decide to get clean. Way too much. I had to lose EVERYTHING, be on death's door, and fully accept death. You deserve a loving, attentive parent. I'm sorry that your mom is stuck with that parasite :(

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5d

Why is this posted in this thread? Sorry about that

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 5d

Yeah I realized that last night my grandma made the mistake of giving her the money to go to rehab instead of just waiting until she’s ready to get booked so that’s how she got the money to get the drugs. I know better though so I’ll just try and do what’s best for myself.

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Anonymous replying to -> yakinaway 5d

Also note: she will be on a dual diagnosis floor for people who have both a mental health concern and an addiction. But it’s one of the only controlled environments where she can truly break free from the devils grip on her. It will be the hardest thing she’s ever done but I promise you it’s worth it. (Best to research psych wards ahead of time and go to one that allows visitors, intermittent access to phones, and personal care items from home)

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Anonymous replying to -> yakinaway 5d

intentions are good but that will likely never work. You can’t lay down ultimatums and force someone to want to be better if they don’t want to be. Psych wards aren’t going to take an unwilling person either without law enforcement orders or threats of self harm. Things don’t always work out like they do on intervention or other TV shows. They have to hit rock bottom on their own before they learn and forcing someone is bound to just make them be sneakier and rebound harder.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5d

Not the place for this rant.

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 3d

There’s always an option to drive home if she says no ? Doing merh infront of your kids is definition of rock bottom

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