Anonymous #1 19h

So you wouldn’t stop if a woman said “no”?

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Anonymous #2 19h

Basic human decency.

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Anonymous OP 19h

the fact that is even considered basic is fucking wild to me (as a man)

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Anonymous #2 19h

That’s all we can get nowadays from most men

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Anonymous OP 19h

it’s wild

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Anonymous #2 19h

Agreed

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Anonymous OP 19h

If 60% of women will yes after saying no twice, then men will believe that’s what all women do. Sort of like how if one man doesn’t respect you, you’ll believe that’s all men don’t

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Anonymous #3 19h

why are we still going after someone after she said no

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Anonymous #3 19h

that still doesn’t explain why a man should ignore a woman’s “no.” you can’t treat someone’s boundary as negotiable just because someone else changed their mind

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Anonymous OP 19h

It’s not a boundary most of the time. It’s a woman trying to act like if they end up having sex, it’s the man’s fault. You know all of this why beat around the bush here

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Anonymous #3 19h

If she says no, you respect the no. If she later changes her mind, that’s her choice. Her changing her mind later doesn’t make her original no meaningless.

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Anonymous OP 19h

Only about 20% of the world agrees with that

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Anonymous #3 19h

Only 20% of the world thinks a “no” should be respected? Then name the source because that’s an extraordinary claim. And even if it were true popularity doesn’t and shouldn’t determine whether someone’s consent should be respected.

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Anonymous OP 19h

You’re setting boundaries for OTHER people. If other women say no and don’t mean it, maybe you should try respecting THEIR intentions. How about instead of saying no, next time just say “no, I’m not interested”. Signal that you aren’t leading them on

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Anonymous #3 19h

You’re conflating ‘some women change their minds’ with “a man should ignore a no.” If someone says no you respect it. If they later change their mind they can communicate that. It’s not my “boundary for other people it’s basic consent. I’m not going to tell someone that their no doesn’t count because they might change their mind later. I’m not arguing with you anymore about consent. No is no. If that doesn’t make sense to you, you have some things to reflect on.

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Anonymous OP 19h

I don’t think you understand your own argument. WHY should someone not continue when someone says no? What is the impact of your “boundary” being crossed?

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Anonymous #6 16h

Just because the opposite happened to you once doesn't mean it's untrue 🤔

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Anonymous #3 16h

It's a matter of respect; it's not your boundary to manage. You simply leave it alone when they say no. If you've got no respect for them you've got no business interacting with them. It's a lot about human decency

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Anonymous #3 16h

Are you fucking r*tarded? What is the impact of the boundary being crossed? Buddy it's fucking r*pe stupid shit.

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Anonymous #9 14h

what a stupid thing to say

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Anonymous #10 14h

How is it stupid? Im sharing my lived experience...

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Anonymous #11 13h

too bad

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Anonymous #11 13h

then you dodged a bullet because they don’t know how to directly communicate what they want… keep taking no as no

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Anonymous #14 13h

Yes obviously he dodged a bullet but many women support this behavior and encourage it. They also need to be held accountable for this. Men should take no for no, women should be able to communicate their feelings without needing a guy to chase them for the thrill "of the game" as I've been told

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Anonymous #14 13h

Not having sex with two attractive women doesn’t seem like “dodging a bullet”. I would much rather have had sex.

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Anonymous #9 13h

i don’t know what women you’re surrounding yourself with but you can hold somebody accountable for something like that by either cutting them off for it or have a discussion about it and draw boundaries

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Anonymous #11 13h

if you would truly rather have sex than respect women or be with partners who can directly communicate then that is incredibly disappointing

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Anonymous #14 13h

I can’t have sex with women and also respect them?

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Anonymous #15 13h

but still i always agree that no means no so if you say it im just going to stop like i don’t care thats not what you meant like you said it so its like hitting a brick wall

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Anonymous #16 11h

This. Or “are you happy?” “I wont tell him” FUCKOFFFFFFFFF

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Anonymous #10 11h

All they did is bring attention to the fact that this is something that happens?? They are allowed to do that, and it doesn't automatically mean they think its okay or agree with it. They also literally said no means no. That means they understand its not a good thing. You need to improve your critical reading and thinking skills...

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Anonymous #12 11h

LMFAO YES because I would totally claim my relationship if I was unhappy 🤣 or even BE in one 💀 these “people” don’t think.

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Anonymous #8 11h

100% this, like i can share my experiences and how it relates to the state of things. It doesn't mean i support or agree with any of it but there's context for some of this stuff. I think we much too quick to attack eachother. It's easy to bring someone down when you don't know their life, their personality, ect. You see more insults being flung than people actually have discussions with eachother

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Anonymous #9 11h

Exactly

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Anonymous #16 9h

I mean, not thinking about things and being confident takes you REALLY far in the world of dating women. Being an empath and I've thinker isn't exactly rewarded unfortunately.

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Anonymous #11 9h

idc no means no

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Anonymous #10 9h

I mean clearly it didn’t for them.

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Anonymous #11 9h

and you’re clearly missing the point you cannot say that their no is meaningless and keep pushing or “chasing” (whatever you’d like to call it) and simultaneously respect women

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Anonymous #11 8h

Bro doesn't know what a bullet looks like😭 she would pass cleanly through your skull before you knew what happened

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Anonymous #14 8h

Well what should’ve I have done in this case?

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Anonymous #2 7h

she says boyfriend, means HELL NO HE WILL FUCKING KILL YOU js you can think men are shit and still think she’d be with a shitty man who would do that. Especially if you’re the shitty man ignoring no

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Anonymous #11 7h

smh bro was just in it for the sex, give him a break

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Anonymous #8 7h

not that he needs defenders — but ignoring the no might just mean ask again later

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Anonymous #19 4h

With him* for life

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