
I can see that can be somewhat missing in a relationship, but in a polyamory relationship there should be a strict equal grounds. I have used a book to sort that stuff out. The book is called, Polyamory Journal: A Relationship Book: Prompts and Practices for Navigating Non-Monogamy by Kate Kincaid LPC.
😑 I said the book is called… I didn’t say you’re in polygamy, but being involved with more than 1 boyfriend is considered polygamous and that book helps to stabilize some issues that maybe occurring in your relationships. Of course that all depends on if they both know you’re being with the other without much conflict. You don’t have to share that information, but it is a good book to maybe read if you want a little more of a stable relationship with both.