Anonymous #1 18h

I don’t think something = bad if there’s a victim. Integrity states bad is bad regardless If someone sees it or not. The premise of loyalty in your question is under false pretenses. If abusers don’t deserve loyalty (they don’t) then why are feigning loyalty by staying with them under the guise of commitment? That don’t make no sense twizzy

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Anonymous beestboy 18h

So what’s lacking integrity about cheating on an abuser? A lot of abuse victims can’t leave. They aren’t feigning commitment to be evil or dishonest, they just can’t leave. That’s one of the ways abusers abuse, they make it impossible for their victim to leave. So it makes it to where if they want happiness or romantic connection or sex without being scared then their only option is to cheat

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Anonymous #1 18h

So if their life is in danger the correct option is to cheat? That’s like if someone is holding me hostage and instead of taking precaution to get out the situation Alive, I spit in the guys face and curse him out. She’s posting anon on YY, she is looking into the idea of letting another man into their (presumably the abuser’s) home . She ain’t that trapped my guy . Cheating is wrong point blank. No excuses .

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Anonymous beestboy 18h

Cheating isn’t necessarily the correct option but it’s not the wrong one either. A lot of the time abuse victims feel they have nothing else to lose so if they’re able to get fleeting happiness then that’s worth the risks. I’ve talked with op in DMs. She’s tried really hard to leave but can’t. It is the abusers home but she is legit trapped. Cheating is wrong. Cheating on an abuser isn’t wrong.

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Anonymous #1 18h

Agree to disagree twin. Idc about none of that .

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Anonymous beestboy 18h

If you don’t care about necessary context, then any argument you make is automatically invalid

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Anonymous #1 18h

I guess so then my guy.

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Anonymous #1 18h

Cheating is cheating. Trying to justify it with he abuses me is a weak argument. Grow a spine and break up with him instead of making excuses

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Anonymous #2 18h

Why do you think abusers don’t deserve to be cheated on?

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Anonymous #1 18h

Why do you think that you're justified in cheating if you don't have a backbone to leave them?

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Anonymous #2 18h

I’m not op btw, I feel like you’re kinda talking to me like I am and I just wanna make that clear so there’s no confusion. Backbone doesn’t matter. Abusers make it impossible for their victims to leave. That’s one of the ways they abuse. I think it’s justified because it makes you happy, gives you a sense of connection and safety, and it sticks it to your abuser

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Anonymous #1 18h

You getting fucked by someone else is not sticking it to your abuser 😭 yall be so fried and ass backwards lmaooo

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Anonymous #3 17h

Literally and I can agree with the divorce thing. At that point you could even do a legal separation but yeah. Literally dangerous af

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Anonymous beestboy 17h

It’s still adultery to be with someone else during a legal separation and can really fuck up the divorce proceedings so gotta keep it secret lol. And that’s why the divorce took so long, had to be legally separated for a full year (needing a separate address) and due to the financial abuse he couldn’t “legally” move out and rent his own apartment for nearly a full year.

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Anonymous #3 17h

Sheeeesh. That is wild

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