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i’m 19 and my bf is 26. my friends who know tell me i’m getting groomed. so then tell me why after 1.5 years of dating him, has my bf never ever exhibited any of the commitment, loyalty, maturity, and masculinity issues that guys my age have??
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Anonymous 1d

Because hes a grown ass man 😭😭 he groomed your ass

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Anonymous 1d

It’s not simply the age that is the problem it's the red flags that pop up from that knowledge alone. Yall are in 2 entirely different life stages. This feels like a dumb thing to do and like you have already been brainwashed(by him or how you grew up) into thinking he has shown no red flags. Maybe you are one of the lucky few but just in case please don't make any life altering decisions because of him. Like ones that only benefits him and requires you to drop everything you have going for you.

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Anonymous 1d

19… 1.5 years of dating… oh boy the thing is that when you turn 25, you’re going to realize that an 18 year-old is a child in your eyes, and the thought of dating someone at such a different developmental stage is going to make your skin crawl

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Anonymous 1d

Bc he knows that all he has to do is act mature and you’ll do whatever he wants you to do

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Anonymous 1d

Its okay girl society loves to infantilize us and call it "protection"

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

i mean if ur going to say he groomed me when he met me as a uni student living on her own sure dude

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Yeah you got groomed

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

26 yos are better at lying than 19yos

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

he has never once pressured me into doing something i have never wanted to do. if anything it would be the other way around 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

Yall are delusional if it was a 17 year old boy and a 22 year old women id say the same thing

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

at the very least, you’re going to look around at the life you’ve made for yourself with the awareness that an 18 year-old boy would be very easily impressed by you, because you are naturally so much more mature and experienced than girls his age and you’re going to understand that even if you somehow meet an 18 year-old who seems like an adult to you, it would still be inappropriate to take advantage of that maturity & experience gap by dating him. even if he’s the one to ask you out first

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