Anonymous wing_leader 3w

BPD is borderline

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Anonymous #2 3w

Correct borderline

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Anonymous #2 3w

Beginning*

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Anonymous #2 3w

Makes sense she can be super sweet and "normal" but sometimes it's like I can never do a single thing right and I'm the worst person ever which is what BPD can do to her, I try to view it as it's not her it's her BPD but getting blamed and yelled at for things that I feel are so small and minimal is taxing

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Anonymous #3 3w

She goes to therapy for BPD which is beneficial she recognizes things that can help her when she's having those moments I'm just wondering if it will ever reach a level that is normal behavior or if it just will slightly improve we been together like a year

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Anonymous OP 3w

That’s the common experience :/ I’m also going to say it’s okay to walk away. Even though it’ll inevitably hurt her and probably cause her to spiral, your mental health matters too. You’re not obligated to stay with someone who hurts you, intentional or not.

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Anonymous OP 3w

Hopefully it will improve. By the time my aunt passed (cancer) she was very stable—I was about 15 at that point and I didn’t even know she had a personality disorder until after she died, I remembered her being odd and disappearing sometimes when I was young but I thought that was just… her. Like I said, by the time I was in highschool, she was pretty stable. Still had rough patches but was doing really well.

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Anonymous #3 3w

I do know my aunt went to the psych ward a few times. Not that I’m saying you should institutionalize your gf, just agreeing with #2 that inpatient treatment can help a lot.

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Anonymous #2 3w

Yea I know I can walk she's tried to break up with me 3 times in the last few months but I've calmed her down each time realizing her emotions are just heightened but I want to atleast say I tried because I'm worried what would happen to her if I walked

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Anonymous #2 3w

This very much. It’s great you want to support her but please don’t do it at the cost of your own well being.

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Anonymous #3 3w

She's been to a mental hospital she's had a rough childhood but I'm hopeful things can work out but I struggle with deciding to end things even if it may benefit me because of what that may do to her since I see so much potential

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Anonymous OP 3w

I have BPD too, intensive therapy and being able to recognize my shifts helped me, along with use of strategies or removing myself. I hope she is finding tools to ground herself and is recognizing behaviors when you bring them to her attention. It’s a difficult disorder and the amount of patience it takes can feel impossible.

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Anonymous OP 3w

I know it sounds cruel but you can’t be liable for her decisions. Worst case, have family members or friends of her’s to contact if things seem to be getting out of hand. That’s how people with BPD keep others around, by threatening the worst. Usually they’re empty threats but it’s good to let others in their circle know what’s up so they can keep an eye out

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Anonymous #3 3w

Haha I try to mentally block out the bad even when she's upset with me I know her feelings are valid but she doesn't express them in the best ways which helps

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Anonymous wing_leader 3w

I've been very patient and level headed I know it's hard for her just as much as it is for me and I don't like walking away from things just because they are tough so time will tell but I'm hopeful

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