Anonymous #1 2d

See I understand this, a lot of my girl friends have told me stories about this and I have been guilty of doing it twice but after the fact it never went into any weird territory. One of who is one of my closest friends and happy she is still in my life. But yes it can be difficult

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Anonymous #1 2d

yeah same. i think women are fully capable of being friends and staying platonic with men but almost every single guy i’ve ever tried to be friends with ends up saying they like me :(

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Anonymous OP 2d

Yeah same with a lot of my girl friends. Personally It doesn’t keep me from making guy friends! I’m just a lot more careful and weary about their intentions at times but otherwise I hope that one day everyone can just like be comfortable with eachother and have a genuine good friendship haha

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Anonymous #2 2d

Which is sad to hear and speaks to a deeper problem of society in how a lot of men are not socialized to see beyond just “girls like boys and boys like girls” and that the only thing the sexes are here for is for romantic relationships and that you can have deep interpersonal relationships with women that doesn’t have to do with sex.

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Anonymous #1 2d

I want that aswell cus there have been so many great women in my life, from family, friends, bosses, mentors, coworkers, strangers in passing and don’t know where I would be without them! Has also given me a broader perspective on lives of the women I do and don’t know and the greater struggles of having to navigate the societies yall live in

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Anonymous #3 2d

Is this always tho? I’m sure there are women you have met or have in your life that didn’t end up becoming love interests

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Anonymous OP 2d

Um not really because most of the girls I've interacted with would be more of acquaintances than friends

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Anonymous #3 2d

Ah I see, so you wouldn’t say you have any close friends who are women?

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Anonymous OP 2d

Not really and if I do hang with with them, it's more in a group setting

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Anonymous #3 2d

Then I guess you aren’t avoiding them just don’t find yourself in places to become closer friends

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Anonymous OP 2d

I just can’t cause I know I'll get attached, and if it doesn't work out, it'll make things awkward, and also I'll get hurt

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Anonymous #3 2d

Damn why do you think you get attached so easily?

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Anonymous OP 2d

Just know I would, after being friends for a while, especially if we share the same interests and goals in life

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Anonymous #3 2d

When you’re in a relationship does this happen? Do you get attached to women who aren’t you’re gf but have similar interests?

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Anonymous OP 2d

No, if I'm in a relationship, my attention is only focused on my gf, nobody really else, and I'll still be cordial with other girls but not attached or flirting with anyone else

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Anonymous #3 2d

But we are talking about platonic relationships. You still have guy friends when you’re in a romantic relationship. You’d treat girl friends just the same no?

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Anonymous OP 2d

Yeah, if I had one

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