Anonymous #1 7w

4 months

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Anonymous OP 7w

I’d start telling him bits and pieces, maybe not everything at 1 time and only what your comfortable with

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Anonymous #1 7w

I don’t know how tho like there’s never an appropriate time to just turn and say “hey do you wanna hear about something crazy that happened to be when I was a kid? it’s gonna make you really sad!!” Yknow

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Anonymous OP 7w

You need to vent, just maybe preface it with that

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I have absolutely no issue talking about the things that have happened I love questions and talking about myself and my life im an open book but I don’t know how to like bring up that stuff especially when it’s sad without being prompted

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Anonymous #1 7w

I don’t tho ive worked thru all my stuff occasionally I’ll have flashbacks n really bad anxiety but it’s usually when he’s sleeping or at work so like at the time it doesn’t matter for him I just feel like I’m hiding it from him but I’m not trying to

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Anonymous OP 7w

I get that, it feels extremely shitty when you talk about something vulnerable and don’t get a compassionate response from someone who you’re already invested in I think it’s best to be deliberate, from here on out, about looking for moments when you can organically bring up aspects of mental health stuff or your trauma history in conversation. like when it’s already relevant to what y’all happen to be chatting about. little by little

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Anonymous OP 7w

and if he responds dismissively or otherwise seems unequipped to handle the reality of what you’ve been through, I would take that as a sign to dip out. but like #2 said, the other possibility is that talking about these subjects brings you closer in a major way

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thanks, thought your comment sounded sensible too 🫡

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