Anonymous OP 1w

So yeah I can understand any POC that looks at me with a 'guilty until proven innocent' lens, and it's completely on me to do the work to prove innocence! It's on the party at fault to do the work to change one's mindset/earn one's trust. Not on the slighted party.

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Anonymous #1 1w

And that shows a stark lack of empathy and perspective. An inability to think outside of one's self. Everything is just all about them specifically- they really need to do some soul searching. Or take some classes. That defensiveness at that specific concept is quite yucky.

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Anonymous #2 1w

In* 2026

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Anonymous #6 1w

Dinkin flicka

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Anonymous #5 1w

See this is the closed perspective that I can't understand. There's no comparison between taught/systematic hatred/bigotry based on notions of superiority/inferiority and 'the other', and learned wariness/resentment based on a long history of intensive mistreatment/violence/cruelty by a specific group that is in power over yours

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Anonymous OP 1w

Calling anti-racism a “closed perspective” is bewildering. Stop trying to justify being racist towards people just because of the past, if you want kids to not be taught what youre saying and kids not to grow up to not be racists (either against black, white, or any other race of people) teaching them to be wary of white people is NOT the solution. Accepting role that race has played in society and history, and deciding to treat EVERYONE equally with respect is the correct way to combat racism.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Meant to say kids to grow up not to be racists

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Anonymous #3 1w

You don't have to do anything. It's completely up to you, what type of person you are and what type of life you lead. If you want to live in a super defensive, narrow mindset like that, feel free. You don't have to 'prove innocence', just like how other ppl don't have to like you or trust you.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I fear this is a very narrow minded thought process in itself though

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Anonymous #6 1w

My dad actually always says 'whities' which is why I say it 😭 and 'feeling a type of way' is just general slang? Or at least in Philly it is

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Anonymous #2 1w

I don’t get why people hate my comment. I’m saying that I wish everybody thought like you and it boggles my mind that so many don’t and that we’re still stuck on shit like this when we could be prospering together amongst all races. Damn how was that hard to see lmfao

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Anonymous #2 1w

How exactly is clinging to broad prejudices restorative or sustainable? I can’t believe you guys are really claiming that creating segregated systems of morality is going to fix and not exacerbate racial divides and animosity

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Anonymous #6 1w

I’m saying we could have been way beyond this by now. Lmfao. Wow.

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Anonymous #2 1w

Why did you see you agree with OP then

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Anonymous #5 1w

I don’t understand how yall don’t get what I’m saying 🤣🤣🤣 maybe reread what I wrote sometimes people don’t get it on the first try

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Anonymous #9 1w

See, this post sounds like it's from a different timeline where any and all harm caused by white ppl/systemic racism only exist in history books. When someone consistently faces danger/harm/injustice/etc from a specific group of people, they tend to garner wariness/resentment towards that specific group of people. Especially when your friends and family are also harmed by that same specific group. Taking into account how nasty things have been over the past decade?

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Anonymous OP 1w

Ts isn't learned from textbooks, it's learned from life experiences. Like yes I'm now naturally wary of men after all I've been through, and after so many of my friends and family members being hurt and abused and assaulted. So I simply imagine that it's a very similar concept.

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Anonymous #6 1w

It seems there's some sort of mental Olympics going on/brutal misread of these posts No one is saying that anyone should cling to prejudices or create segregated systems We're simply calling for some understanding. Why/how certain people may feel a type of way about certain aggressor/oppressor groups. From understanding the pain/hurt, and realizing how to dispel the distrust/heal the wounds, can we as humanity come together.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Being consistently wounded by a specific group of people naturally leads to distrust of that certain group. Distaste. It's on members of that harmful group to break the cycle, and step up to heal wounds. But you don't have to. No one has to do anything. Everyone can choose exactly what type of person they want to be, and what type of life they want to lead.

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Anonymous OP 1w

It’s you that’s doing mental gymnastics lol. “Distrust of that group. Distaste.” there’s a way to sum that up in one word: prejudice. And yes when you decide that prejudice towards one group is acceptable even understandable but utterly unacceptable when coming from/to another that is a segregated system of morality, wherein one group is judged by different standards, and is subject to different rules based purely on race.

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Anonymous OP 1w

It doesn’t matter if you add- “to bring us together” By your definition there is a codified “harmful group” (your words not mine) which codifies who is right and who is wrong by birth. Just because you believe it’s just doesn’t make it so, and it certainly doesn’t make it constructive

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Anonymous OP 1w

I mean I can’t reiterate enough how recreating raced based original sin is NOT restorative

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Anonymous #6 1w

It's not correct, and it's not good, I agree with you. I'm simply saying it's understandable. And an entirely different concept than 'fear/hate of the other' that was learned/taught from notions of superiority/inferiority, word of mouth, etc. It's just the reality of the world we're living in. It's not good, but it's reality, and to make progress/positive change and unite, certain groups need to make amends with other certain groups. Earn trust back. Beyond even just race, in general.

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Anonymous OP 1w

While it requires certain affected groups to forgive, that forgiveness can't always just spawn out of nowhere. After a group that's consistently harmed you and your/ friends/family starts to break the learned patterns, that forgiveness/trust can be earned. When one constantly encounters kindness, patience, etc, it can rewrite notions of harm, danger, violence, etc. You fight the ingrained survival instincts by spreading kindness and understanding, pm.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Like for me, every guy that treats me with genuine kindness/respect/etc does a bit to rewrite my learned view of men. Everyone good man I know actively fights the learned distrust I've acquired. Just by breaking the patterns that my brain is expecting. Just by being kind and safe and respectful rather than harmful and disrespectful and creepy, for instance.

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