Anonymous #1 17h

🤷🏿‍♂️

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Anonymous OP 17h

ofc you don’t have a response

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Anonymous #1 17h

OP just did not word things carefully. Neither men nor women can really be proud of all aspects of out biology. Don't mock the opposite gender because you have no idea what the opposite experience is like. Do your best to be compassionate and understanding. If you want to be an excellent human being be curious and helpful

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Anonymous #4 17h

you expect me to be compassionate when i hear that a man has to jerk off before talking to women or he won’t be able to control himself? really? does he also have to jerk off before talking to men or is he incapable of viewing women as people and not just sex toys?

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Anonymous #3 17h

men are jokes oh my god. do you hear yourself rn? “i have to jerk off or i won’t be able to control myself and my urges”

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Anonymous #1 16h

Why are Women hating men for this? You haven’t lived through it, and the fact is Women could have this problem too. Some probably do. Quit hating man just let the man confess in the community legit called “Confessions”

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Anonymous #3 16h

if you post something on the internet you should expect people to comment. if he doesn’t want that he should get a journal. also are you joking? do you really need someone to explain why it’s bad men can’t control their sexual urges?

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Anonymous #1 16h

Imagine if I started shitting on women for feeling emotional when they were in their luteal

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Anonymous OP 16h

first of all men already do. second of all i didn’t realize that made women have to jerk off before talking to men bc they were so afraid they wouldn’t be able to control themselves! wow that would be crazy

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Anonymous OP 16h

i’m not even joking atp do you genuinely think it’s normal you can’t have a convo with a woman you’re attracted to without jerking off bc you’re THAT certain you wouldn’t be able to control your sexual urges?

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Anonymous #1 16h

No it’s not normal to do that. But it can be a struggle for some people. Some people just want the attention of a women through sex or something like that. It’s not normal it’s just a problem they might be working through. It’s not normal to treat your husband or wife like shit and divorce them but the reality is that many relationships are like that. So no it’s not normal but it can be a common struggle.

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Anonymous #3 16h

if men are this bad at controlling themselves sexually they shouldn’t be on dating apps at all until they can see women as more than just sexual objects

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Anonymous #1 16h

That's the point I think. They can behave well, if they take 5min and deal with an uncomfortable biological reality they face (if they have high drive)

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Anonymous #4 16h

i genuinely don’t know any other way to explain that if you need to jerk off before talking to a woman bc otherwise you wouldn’t be able to control yourself, that’s bad. you should be able to have a convo with someone you’re attracted to without needing to jerk off to be normal

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Anonymous #1 16h

Probably not immediately before, but like a morning/evening 5min

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Anonymous #4 15h

I got a dick and I don’t need to jork it to treat women like people. that’s all you gang

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Anonymous #5 15h

Maybe you have a lower and more manageable sex drive. I would not persecute you if your biology was to have a peanut allergy and you carried an epi-pen and asked others to not bring peanuts near you... Why would this quick 5min act be problematic in your view if it hurts nobody, solves a problem, and requires no action of others?

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Anonymous #1 15h

It’s not just when he’s talking to Women that was not the post. It was when he was going on a dating app where they are quite literally looking for a romantic relationship

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Anonymous #4 15h

I used to masturbate every night and morning dawg 😭 recovered now, but even then I didn’t need to masturbate to not send risky shit. do you yell at walls daily so you don’t get pissed at people? if you do, I’m hella judging… same with this. you either have a medical condition or don’t see women as people worthy of respect

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Anonymous #5 15h

Women and men are very much worthy of respect. Anything that stands in the way of mutual respect should be dealt with in the least harmful and most healthy way possible. I think you and I agree on that. Do you have suggestions for high sex drive men that are irritated by their own biological motivations and would prefer to act right? I put out my suggestion, you seem to think there is a better solution. I am truly very hopeful you have one. I'm all ears. Explain. Please. Help heal the world

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Anonymous #4 14h

have a personal rule on not sending risky texts unless you’ve talked about it beforehand I have a high libido, but I never want to send texts like that when I have no idea of their boundaries. their likely discomfort is too tangible for me to ever want that w/o knowing *they* want the same. I can’t imagine how someone wouldn’t feel the same apprehension, unless they’re willing to disregard how the other person feels.

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Anonymous #5 14h

Ok so from the way you wrote that I think you probably have a lower sex drive than a lot of people. Which sounds really advantageous to you, congrats! To help you empathize; Its kind of like starving. There is a scene in the notebook that actually captures this when Noah runs up to Allie and with a crazed look in his eye says something like "When I see something I want I just, gotta have it" It's really good acting, told in a romantic way, but totally unacceptable behavior in the modern era.

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Anonymous #4 14h

I often use to feel that passionate and a few times expressed myself that way. Bad results. Passion like that is not acceptable. So to go through the gradual disinterested talking stage, then slowly more interested talking, dating, .... that is normal now my biology fights that whole process

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Anonymous #4 14h

It's really upsetting, frustrating, painful, and depressing. I felt often as though I simply do not belong in the world. Until I realized that high energy could be dealt with. Now I'm fine

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Anonymous #4 14h

I'm a regular ol' dispassionate mildly interested socially acceptable man. 5min in the morning, 5min in the evening and I can participate in the world we've built

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Anonymous #4 14h

having restraint ≠ having a low libido. please don’t assume stuff about me to prove a point. it’s also not like starving, since you won’t die if it’s not fulfilled. use whatever coping mechanisms you want, just don’t tell people you have to masturbate to talk to them.

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Anonymous #4 14h

I'm deeply grateful there is a solution for me. To be totally honest if you have other ideas that might work better or not require a fap. Genuinely please let me know. I know I am not alone. I am certain there are others reading this who feel the same.

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Anonymous #5 14h

I’m trying so hard not to be aggressive, we simply do not understand each other and are talking past each other. I’m glad you don’t send sexual texts to people you don’t know, and I suppose you’re better than a lot of other men. have a good day.

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Anonymous #5 14h

I can tell from the obvious intellect (word choice and sentence structure) behind your writing that you are capable of being very cruel. Thanks for exercising that restraint. I plan to re-read everything you wrote here. Maybe I can get a new idea into my head that is not making sense now. I hope you have a good day too. My DMs are on in case you would like to keep talking this one through.

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Anonymous #4 14h

I try not to be, and I apologize for my casual callousness: it’s something I’m working on. I suppose we both have something in common, in needing to exercise more restraint through coping mechanisms

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Anonymous #6 12h

Why would you be disgusted? People masturbate. Most if not all people.

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