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I think I really fucked up bc my bf is mad at me and for the first time ever he’s requested that we sleeping separate rooms
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Anonymous 1d

Have you apologized? (Like genuinely apologized, not an empty one or whiny begging for him to just stop being mad at you type apology)

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Anonymous 1d

What did u do

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I begged him to do a sexual roleplay thing that he’d said no to in the past and I kept begging tn after he told me to stop

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Oh I mean I can definitely understand why he may feel frustrated. It might just feel like you aren’t respecting his boundaries when he’s told you no before.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Yes

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Yeah I know. I just wasn’t thinking

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Okay, good. Just give him some space, let him do what he needs to do if you've already apologized (including the exact ways in which you were wrong/validated his reaction). It sounds like he may have some sort of trauma or previous really bad experience related to this sort of thing?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Well tbh I’m the one with trauma related to it. He kept saying no because he said he didn’t want me to view him as a perpetrator of my trauma

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I think now is the best time to just let him have time to himself. Give him that space and show you care about his boundaries further downc

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Yeah I’m in my room giving him that space. I just feel really guilty for upsetting him rn

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

That’s honestly a great and mature reaction for him it give, but if you don’t mind me asking what was the role play thing you wanted to do?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

Like a hooker and client roleplay. He didn’t want to do it because I have a past in sex work that has left me really traumatized tbh. I thought it might be fun tho

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