
beestboy
I agree with both of these sentiments but with the healthy middle ground. I enjoy being the caretaker and primary breadwinner but I also want to value my partner and understand they bring a lot to the relationshipThat’s your preference and that’s fine if it works for you and your partner. The problem was his “need” to be in control of the fictional woman he doesn’t have, and the comments where he threatened violence to her and very obviously did not want to put in any work for a relationship.