Confessions on Sidechat | dare i say that if your kinks or fetishes emerged from trauma, you should be getting therapy for it instead of sexualizing it? idk it’s very uncomfortable as the partner to be asked to cater to fetishes that stem from abuse…

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dare i say that if your kinks or fetishes emerged from trauma, you should be getting therapy for it instead of sexualizing it? idk it’s very uncomfortable as the partner to be asked to cater to fetishes that stem from abuse…

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Anonymous 9h

Are you assuming they are stemming from abuse or was it communicated by your partner?

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Anonymous

#1 9h

communicated 🫩 and its ex partner now. he asked me to actually beat him up.

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Anonymous

OP 9h

Damn that’s tragic

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Anonymous

#1 9h

i know…he wanted me to recreate the abuse of his mother…

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Anonymous

OP 9h

As someone in the therapy field it’s often an actual coping mechanism people will do, though obviously maladaptive. It’s usually a surrogate way they feel control over their trauma

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Anonymous

#1 9h

yeah, that’s what my aunt said (psychologist). but it’s so sad

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Anonymous

OP 9h

It is hopefully he eventually seeks out healthier coping skills, not sure if you are religious but I’ll keep in him my prayers

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