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the amount of people who complain about their abusive partner and then defend said abusive partner to the death in the comments
451 upvotes, 32 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Confessions. "the amount of people who complain about their abusive partner and then defend said abusive partner to the death in the comments"
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Anonymous 7w

Unfortunately from a psychological perspective it’s because it’s Stockholm syndrome. They are most of the time kind of stuck

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Anonymous 7w

unless you’ve been in an abusive relationship, you cannot speak on people in abusive relationships

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Anonymous 7w

top 10 biggest pet peeves

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Anonymous 7w

my mom does this

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Anonymous 7w

i’ll never judge these people bc i know what it feels like to be in denial about your abuse. it took me 2 years post separation to feel like myself again and start setting boundaries. please don’t judge a book you’ve never read

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Anonymous 7w

a new tiffany pollard meme i must save!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

“Stuck”

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

When you’ve studied cases of that stuff you’d understand

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

i’ve been in one but as soon as it happened i left, i dont understand people who stay

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

i 100% get that its annoying to see ppl do stupid shit. i sometimes genuinely have to block ppl bc those posts get under my skin😭 but ive also been abused & i stayed longer than i shouldve. ppl who have been abused as children or have mental health issues are more likely to end up in abusive relationships

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

yeah i grew up in a rough household too just i would much rather break the cycle and that’s always been my mindset seeing all my mom has went thru

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

It can also be a sort of “fawning” response, which I learned about recently.

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Anonymous 7w

well said

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

That’s the reason I do understand. Does that make sense?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

Curious as to what type of studying you’ve done because Stockholm Syndrome literally isn’t real. It’s a made up condition that was created after some victims of a bank robbery felt sympathetic towards the robbers.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 7w

"stockholm syndrome isnt real" LMFAO this is the worst take ive heard in a while wow

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

Um it’s not a ‘take’ it’s literally a fact. You can look it up. It’s not in the DSM-5 and it’s not an official medical diagnosis. It was made up to describe the feelings some hostages felt after a robbery.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 7w

Just cause it’s not a official doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen and isn’t real. That is such a garbage take

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 7w

I got a bachelor’s in psychology. Do you have a degree in psychology? Are there not multiple cases of Stockholm syndrome in cults and abusive relationships?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

yeah i get it, i was in one. but i still think it’s weird that they will rant online and then be nasty to the people encouraging them to leave. like dont post about it then 🤦‍♀️

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Anonymous 6w

bitch was i talking nice to you but it sounds like you still need therapy LMFAO

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Anonymous 6w

imagine being so close minded that you think everyone’s situation is the same. my ex had held a knife to my throat when he went through my phone and learned i was just talking about his behavior to my best friend. you have NO idea what someone is going through, and NO idea what their abuser is capable of. go on somewhere with that ugly ass judgmental attitude

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

No, there has never been a case of Stockholm Syndrome because it does not exist. People are getting confused about semantics. People in abusive relationships do frequently feel a conflicting set of emotions that makes it hard for them to leave. But there is no condition in which captives fall in love with their captor.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 6w

Like I said earlier, it was a term made up to describe how some victims of a bank robbery felt after the fact. Now, people incorrectly believe it’s a real medical condition and falsely attribute it to everything from fictional characters to real life abuse victims.

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Anonymous 6w

When people say ‘Stockholm Syndrome’, what they’re often talking about is a media trope of captives falling in love with their captors. Literally the most famous way this term gets used is in regard to Beauty and the Beast. SOME of the behavior associated with Stockholm Syndrome is legitimate, but real professionals often strive away from using the term because it’s misleading, and again, doesn’t exist.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 6w

It’s the same way medical professionals often don’t use the term psychopath. Even though the behavior it’s describing *does* exist. But the word psychopath generally has other connotations because of society and pop culture, and it’s not an official medical diagnosis, so medical professionals try to stay away from using the term.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 6w

Literally look at the Wikipedia entry for Stockholm Syndrome. It describes it as contested and disputed, and as a part of POP psychology. Characterized by the tendency of hostages to develop a psychological bond with their captors.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 6w

Hahahaha using Wikipedia as your source when literally anyone can make an edit one 😂😂😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

I used the DSM-5 as a source earlier and you rejected. If you won’t accept real sources, then surely you’ll accept Wikipedia? No? Did you ever learn about cognitive dissonance over the course of getting that psychology degree? If you don’t like Wikipedia, you can look up the fucking dictionary, which also agrees with me.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 6w

If you absolutely refuse to do any research when confronted with evidence that conflicts with your preconceived notions, you have some serious issues and I’m worried about how you’ll use that psychology degree. Experts in any field should be able to accept when new evidence is presented and acknowledge when previous knowledge they’ve learned turns out to be wrong.

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Anonymous 6w

DO YOU SEE MY EARLIER COMMENTS WHERE I SAID ITS NOT AN OFFICIAL DIAGNOSIS AND ITS ABOUT CAPTORS AND HOSTAGES BUT PEOPLE DISAGREED WITH ME, SAYING IT IS AN OFFICIAL DIAGNOSIS AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CAPTORS AND HOSTAGES???? I LITERALLY CITED THE FACT THAT IT ISN’T IN THE DSM-5 OR ANY OTHER MAJOR MEDICAL JOURNALS AND Y’ALL SAID THAT WAS IRRELEVANT! AM I IN THE FUCKING TWILIGHT ZONE?

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 6w

Yeah and schizophrenia up until a certain point wasn’t a diagnosis either in the DSM-5 haha people thought if they heard voices they were possessed. It’s whatever at this point man I’ve got life to live and better things to do than argue with an online stranger 😂

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