Anonymous #1 19h

if the kids are in school

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Anonymous OP 19h

alr that’s pushing it because taking care of your children doesn’t stop just because they start going to school it’s still a lot of work

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Anonymous #1 19h

imo not enough to justify one person staying home when they’re not there for ~7 hours of the day

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Anonymous OP 19h

so if you have several kids right you have to deal with house errands like shopping and cleaning and if there’s a pet you deal with feeding, exercise, grooming, and if lunch isn’t free or is terrible you’re prepping lunch or prepping dinner which you gotta cook for the whole family and when they get home which is usually time off after work you’re on the clock it’s like being a live in nanny + maid + pet sitter all in one

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Anonymous #1 19h

doesn’t mean it’s the hardest job in the world but a lot of what they do are forms of labor that are often paid for so it’s definitely still work

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Anonymous #1 19h

never said it didn’t involve labor, just that the desire to be a sahm can be the result of immaturity. actually the more than i think about it unless someone comes from money themselves i think it’s really immature in general to put 100% of the financial burden on one person tbh

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Anonymous OP 18h

i feel like you can only say that if they demanded to stay at home but generally it’s something a couple decides on together that it’s what works best for their family

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Anonymous #1 18h

yeah and it’s still immature to do. what happens if they lose their job? or die? or a hundred other things that would devastate a family losing their sole income? just bc they make the decision together doesn’t make it any better

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Anonymous OP 18h

well ofc it makes it better if one side insists you don’t work that’s a form of abuse and if one side insists they not work that’s exploitative. also so if someone dies that’s why there’s life insurance and two like you said people who do this are probably already in a pretty comfy financial position meaning their income is pretty stable and if something did change and they need two incomes one can always just go back to work?

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Anonymous #1 18h

yeah ig going from abuse to a stupid decision is technically better 😭 there are safeguards available but the majority of sahms aren’t well off, they’re doing that bc daycare is too expensive. there’s def an affordability problem with having kids but that doesn’t make the decision to be 100% financial dependent on someone else any less immature

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