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Confessions 5w
Idk I just grew up in an "ask your mom" household, I'm not marrying a man who thinks he has decision making authority lol just go to work and come home. If you wanna be in charge somewhere, be in charge at your place of employment
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Anonymous 5w

You not being able to see how disrespectful to your mother this is, and how unnecessarily stressful it made her life, to the point you want to have it yourself because you think it’s a good thing, is actually really sad

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

It wasn't disrespectful to my mom and she's not unnecessarily stressed lol she gets whatever she wants and has ultimate say on literally everything. Hot take, some women are a little controlling/demanding and actually thrive in this dynamic lol. Things are not automatically bad for everyone just because they would be bad for you, and it's not disrespectful to hold your partner in such high regard that you'll follow them through wherever they take you. Not everybody marries a useless manchild

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I urge you to research decision fatigue. Even people who enjoy control get tired of it. I’m not saying your dad was a useless manchild, I’m saying he intentionally took hands off control of his household and child rearing, leaving it all to your mother. Making every single decision every single time for your family is EXHAUSTING. You’re either blind or your mother is a saint for not letting you see that

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I urge you to stop projecting because I literally never said he took hands off control of his household and child rearing, leaving it all to my mother lmao you literally just made that up.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Like that's literally what I would quantify as a useless manchild

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Then what else is an “ask your mother” household? Please enlighten me if I’m clearly misunderstanding

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Is it not a household in which you must ask your mother for everything? Your father making no choices? Leaving them all up to her?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

A household in which my dad knows my mom well enough to know the kinds of things she would want to have total say on and respects her enough to leave that to her because her voice is valued at the highest regard in our house. The whole point is respect and reverence. My dad is the one who woke up to tend to crying babies every single time in the first month postpartum for every baby so my mom could rest, to give you a clue. So tell me more about how my dad disrespects my mom since you're so sure

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

And even if it did translate to leaving every single choice to my mom, how does you make the jump from that to "well that also implies he doesn't take care of the kids or anything around the house" like that makes no sense. When you go to work and your manager is telling everybody what to do, does that mean your manager also has to go do everything because nobody they manage does their job?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Oh so no response, just downvoting because you sound like an idiot

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Lmao I’m enjoying other aspects of my life sorry I can’t be here to argue with you every second. Have some patience, lady

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

You had time to read it, downvote it, and now respond to a comment that came after

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