Anonymous #1 1w

What signals exactly I’m not very good at determining body language

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Anonymous OP 1w

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP89e3vjy/

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Anonymous #1 1w

That’s a link where a psychologist who specializes with body language talks about some

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Anonymous #1 1w

I’m not really close enough with anyone to have that applied to me

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Anonymous OP 1w

Do they always single you out for “jokes” that put you down?

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Anonymous OP 1w

How do they treat you compared to others in the same friend group

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Anonymous OP 1w

What are they doing that is making you think they are talking behind your back?

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Anonymous #1 1w

Not really?

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Anonymous #1 1w

Not really in a friend group

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Anonymous #1 1w

That they don’t me with respect or include me very much. I’m worried I’m just physically unattractive.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Have you tried to ask why you don’t get invited?

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Anonymous #1 1w

No, I don’t wanna be told that I’m an ugly weirdo loser to my face.

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Anonymous #2 1w

Most people are assholes when you’re ugly

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Anonymous OP 1w

Maybe get some confidence because being negative about yourself all the time effects how people treat you too

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Anonymous #1 1w

I don’t talk about the way I feel about my appearance. They just don’t respect me. You would understand if you were actually unattractive.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I really doubt it’s your appearance because that’s an extremely shallow thing to exclude a friend for

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Anonymous #1 1w

I mean, everyone is shallow when you’re ugly, that’s just kind of a truth

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Anonymous OP 1w

Maybe it’s your attitude then. If you are claiming that people you call friends are only singling you out because of your physical appearance and not your personality or the way you carry yourself, because confidence is more attractive than physical attributes. you can be attractive but an ass hole and people wouldn’t want to invite them because of how they act, not their appearance

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Anonymous #1 1w

Even if you don’t make comments directly about your appearance, you might be making little comments or jokes about it that’s enough to turn them away from inviting you. Seriously confidence is a virtue

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Anonymous #1 1w

#1 is right, though I get that’s much easier said than done

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Anonymous #2 1w

I do think physical appearance plays a role in first impressions. Unfortunate, but it’s not productive to deny it. Pretty privilege is real. I won’t sit here and say “nooo ur beautiful” because I don’t think you’d be making this post if you were conventionally attractive (if such a thing exists), unless your confidence is just extra extra low. But if you give people opportunities to get to know you, and they still exclude you because of your appearance, then they’re shallow. And bad friends.

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Anonymous #2 1w

Now, how do you know if they’re excluding you because of your appearance vs your personality? That’s tough. But this is where confidence comes in, because if you’re spending all your time worrying about your looks, you’re not giving people a chance to know you for your personality.

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Anonymous #2 1w

Again, #1 is right that putting yourself down all the time can be a deterrent. But it’s a delicate thing, because we are all insecure to some degree, and self-deprecating humor is a very common way to cope with that. Some of my friends are extremely self-deprecating, which I find funny and endearing, but others might have a different tolerance level.

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Anonymous #2 1w

Not everyone will like your appearance, and not everyone vibe with your personality. That applies to every single person on earth. It sounds trite but there ARE people out there who will appreciate one or both. I hope you find them.

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Anonymous OP 6d

True

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