Anonymous OP 16h

you can succeed in america without generational wealth but it’s def harder without it no disputing that fs

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Anonymous #1 16h

No. They are not. Her body, her choice.

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Anonymous #1 16h

These mental gymnastics. It cannot be the man’s fault if he says he doesn’t want the child but she chooses to have the child she doesn’t have the resources to take care of. I’m so sick and tired of this. In 2026, woman can and should be held accountable for placing children in impoverished conditions where access to abortion and etc is available.

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Anonymous #1 16h

Impregnating is one thing, but choosing to carry for 9 months is another. If you have access to abortion, then it ultimately falls on you. Women have equal rights now and there’s no need to infantilize them when it comes to this basic concept: don’t have kids you can’t take care of. Choosing to have sex does not mean you are choosing to have a child!

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Anonymous #2 16h

As someone who is living this life, your comment is dismissive. Saying that I can still succeed whilst glossing over that fact that it would be extremely more difficult because there are no social safety nets is just gross. Cherry picking examples can be done all day but the truth of the matter is that making it out of the hood doesn’t doesn’t stop at graduating from college; it means materially starting from 0 with no assets, no favors, no phoning in a parent for help, no loan from dad

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Anonymous #2 16h

No inheritance.

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Anonymous #3 16h

Uhmm hello, no one did! I’m a pro choice Green Party leftist!

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Anonymous #3 16h

I will always vote for candidates who support women’s right to abortion and prenatal healthcare!

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Anonymous OP 16h

i’m literally in ur exact situation as a first generation american. and while it fucking sucks you don’t see me complaining about it, either do something or not. it’s not cherry picking either there’s many successful stories in the US, but you guys put yourself in a box and then complain that you can’t get out of the box. it’s not like ur a child miner in a 3rd world country where the minimum salary is 5k a year, you have a way

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Anonymous OP 16h

that’s not glossing as i acknowledged it’s extremely difficult, it’s just not impossible.

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Anonymous #2 16h

Piss off, you not complaining doesn’t stifle my right to do so. In fact, it just makes you more of a sheep. And it is cherry picking because the stories are RARE and highly individualized. And I never put myself in a box! I obviously worked extremely hard to make it out of the hood, move to the opposite side of the country, and make the best of it. I cannot oppress myself. All of you immigrant assholes who come over here thinking that you’ve got it figured out. Like listen to yourself.

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Anonymous OP 16h

That’s great! Now magic up some legal abortions and insurance coverage that doesn’t have the right to refuse birth control.

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Anonymous #2 16h

Listen to yourself: you acknowledge that it’s extremely difficult. I need you to understand that the obstacles placed before us are not meant to be overcome. They are meant to stop us. So why blame me for the obstacle placed in front of me? Especially when I’ve already tried my best just to overcome the ones before.

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Anonymous OP 16h

The man is equally to blame because she wouldn’t have gotten pregnant if he didn’t provide sperm. Have you considered that people in poverty might not have access to safe abortions?

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Anonymous OP 16h

ok..let’s not act like coming from bad beginnings to middle class or even low middle class is extremely rare, at least that’s what i mean by succeeding at the very least. no one’s doubting the crushing experience under capitalism but ppl can succeed or make by. you getting out of the hood is an example of that and ur mother becoming a ICU nurse

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Anonymous #3 16h

And the goalpost has moved! The fact is that women do have the right abortion. We just don’t hold them accountable for having children they can’t take care of. I’m not blaming women for having sex or becoming impregnated. I’m blaming them for BIRTHING children into resource deserts.

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Anonymous OP 16h

what obstacles

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Anonymous #1 16h

I am well aware, this is why I said that women should be held accountable if they do have access to abortion services. And impregnating is one thing, choosing to carry is another.

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Anonymous #2 15h

My mother didn’t become an ICU nurse. I became an icu nurse. And it is extremely rare what planner are you living on? Wealth gaps are increasing, education is suffering, children of today have less opportunities than their parents.

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Anonymous #2 15h

Housing, networking, social and political opportunities, higher education.

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Anonymous OP 15h

my highschool was literally the poorest and lowest rank in our county + state but MANY students went on pre-nursing, pre-law, engineering etc with like a good portion of the population being low income so no it’s not rare, and I don’t mean for this to sound like just because of my situation is different That’s the overall rule but I’ve seen this situation in many other places too?? not everyone gets handouts from their parents but they find housing esp with low income housing programs now

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Anonymous #2 15h

How many of them graduated? And what low income housing programs are you talking about? No scratch that. We all need affordable housing. After taxes I make 76k a year and rent is 3000+ a month!? wtf are you talking about??

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Anonymous OP 15h

u make 76K a year after coming from poverty with a single mother and ur whining u can’t make it in america?😭 unless ur in some state like CA that’s not even bad. each year majority of them like 90% graduated. most of them go to cheap colleges in state. ur making it seem so impossible but i refuse to believe that. for kids there’s DYCD in NY, section 8, SELP etc

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Anonymous #2 15h

Omg. They’re right. There’s nothing I can do when I’m surrounded by idiots. I make 76 after taxes. My rent is eating up more than HALF of my net income.

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Anonymous OP 15h

mind you, ur doing better than a lot of americans after taxes. is it illegal to move to with ur income

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Anonymous #2 14h

Doing better than half doesn’t mean I’m not struggling. Also what’s the point of sowing division between me and the rest of america that also feeling this financial struggle? IMO, I’m on their side. Also, you do realize that that me moving to a more affordable area would also require me to get another job close enough for me to commute there which would mean a paycut, right? One thing that no one talks about is that moving to a place where you make more money using the same skill set just mea

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Anonymous OP 14h

Just means that you’re moving to an area with a higher cost of living.

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Anonymous OP 14h

ok bra this isn’t a fruitful conversation u have a good day 😭✌🏾 stay suffering ig

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Anonymous OP 14h

Like literally everything in life is hard do you want everything handed to you or something??? bro deal with it

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Anonymous #2 14h

It was never meant to be fruitful.

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Anonymous #2 14h

The truth is that there are documented disparities as well as systemic cruelties against people like me that asshats like you like to just dismiss and act like don’t count. But they do matter. And as a first generation American, it’s likely that your family was wealthy before they even immigrated here. You’re a fraud. You didn’t make it from nothing.

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Anonymous OP 14h

My 95 y.o grandmother can’t afford to replace her molding toilet, and many of them can’t afford hot water, but yes i’m a fraud slow ass bitch

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Anonymous OP 14h

The fact that you went to a high school that offered opportunities for prelaw tells me that you’re school absolutely could not be the poorest. Nice story bro but all we had were the military show up to enlist us.

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Anonymous OP 14h

my highschool actually didn’t 😂😂 i sought them out online on linkedIn, unlike you, I don’t make excuses ❤️ stay poor

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Anonymous #2 14h

She’s 95. Like that’s your example? A 95 year old woman? She should be in a hospital. She ran out of her retirement a long time ago. Let’s talk about you. What do YOU do.

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Anonymous OP 14h

is arguing on yikyak going to make ur rent lower

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Anonymous #2 14h

👀 Are you dumb? I’m a healthcare professional. I obviously sought out my own opportunities.

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Anonymous OP 14h

Can’t afford a hospital and we don’t have hospice in the country, we also don’t have social security, and she wouldn’t be able to save up enough for a retirement fund anyways. thats REAL poor. not ur bullshit excuses

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Anonymous #2 14h

It passes the time.

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Anonymous #2 14h

That’s not real poor. First of all the fact that she has the infrastructure to support her to 95 years of age. The fact that you just brush over that. This means she receives really good care from the people around her likely her family who can financially afford to keep her alive. That’s why it’s idiotic to compare me to your dying grandma.

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Anonymous #2 14h

And we do have hospice in this country are you okay?

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Anonymous #2 13h

Regardless, I am the only one in my family that made it. And I never sat here and said that it wasn’t hard enough for the rest of America. I can recognize that my hard work and the fact that I’m smarter than most of you needle brains has eft me better off, but I can still acknowledge financial strife. Rent is 3400 dollars not including utilities! It should be cheaper for all of us.

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Anonymous OP 13h

Luckily I just rent a room though, but it’s the fact that I can’t even afford my own place after all this bs. I’m still struggling!

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